Very interesting information Apollo.
I recall one female poster complaining of DJM telling her he was chatting from bed and when he printed out their long long chat sessions, it was quite the spectacle. One felt it was uncomfortable to say the least. You did feel that it was somehow inappropriately personal and if it were my spouse, I would not feel comfortable with the level of intimacy that was being projected although there was nothing sexual being said. There was just a "creepy level" that made you feel sorry for the wife of a man who spent so much time talking to a young woman. If it was Christian council required, I personally feel that there needed to be no discussion of people chatting online while in bed etc. It just didn't seem right. Others felt the same way and commented.
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I have just had Dave come on-line to me and start talking to me.
I just cannot take it any more. He just keeps wanting to hurt me. I tried to speak to Sue about it just now and told her that i feel Dave is bullying me she would not listen to me and told me that i was "murmering" about Dave. I explained that i was not that i was just telling her how he and her were making me feel. Why do they keep doing this to me? My head hurts so much, they are making it so bad. Please someone help me. I cant take thier bullying an longer. Its hurting me so much. Its breaking my heart. I have asked them to leave me alone. But then Dave comes on line to talk to me again! I dont know how he knew i was on-line because i thought i had blocked him. Dave if you ae reading this... please just STOP! I dont want anything to do with you or any of the Jesus Christians. Please stop hurting me! You are pushing me too far!
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Dear Kirstie,
This sounds like the kind of thing which people call cyber bullying or cyber stalking. Dave is clearly obsessed with you and what has happened, hence him being in bed and instigating contact with you after saying it's over.
It's kind of like the rejected lover coming back over and over again.
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..........What a disgusting bully. “just checking to see if there is any light left in you at all”. How can he even recognise “light” in a person when he is so immersed in the darkness of distrust and manipulation? It is impossibility. It seems his fondness for you Kirstie has crossed a bit of a line as he does not even know why he is contacting you ... bordering on flirtatious I think...................
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Girl power is great. ...but I tell you what, if some guy tried doing a sleazy "I'm lying in bed... I don't know why I am contacting you, but I am going to keep a record of everything you say" chat to my wife and ... she would have some man power backing her up too! It sounds like you have a good man who cares for you. Remember, you have a whole lot more good in your life that that dark hole of contention cannot touch if YOU will it.
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Apollo brings up some very good pointers here. It makes one cringe to think of the 2 DM's chatting online.
Awkward!
Apollo=Zeuszor is taking some time off and it's good to see you stepping in to fill his shoes with useful information and stats. Thank you. For a person so new to the forum, you have a good grip on the Jesus Christian leader.