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disillusioned1
1) Pequa Girl is not a troll. I hate people. But this person could not know the congruent details that I also know about their life and be a troll. They are just someone with enough information to be confused, and seem more than they are. Sometimes parents share too much about nothing. And we are all paranoid...
2) Wow is all I can say to the new posts. Is it amazing that we have almost no response about incest? Are we all beyond feeling? To be abused/molested by someone you know is awful and disgusting... but to be abused/molested by your family... it's an entirely different ball of wax. I find I don't have words to express my emotions about it. Nothing could be said enough. Understating or overstating would only add to already raw wounds. Did this group think this would have happened anyway? I can't be so sure. I think these experiences were heightened by this group. Abusers attract abusers? Perhaps. Abuse enables abuse... I feel that would be a more apt descriptor.
Do you ever wonder who you would have been had it not been for Jack Hickman? I do. I wonder if I would have been better. Not happier. But better? Some a-hole once said to me: well it doesn't matter if you're happy... what matters is if you do what is right. Of course I'm using strong language because I didn't agree with their measure of right. But they might have been onto something in this case.
Considering my life... would I have been better without Jack?
I have no idea. I never had a life without Jack being involved. Without a Jack... my parents would not have even been married. "I" would not exist. There would be a completely different me, in a different set of circumstances, a separate life. Sometimes, feeling existential, I wonder what that person would have been like.
disillusioned -
"Pequa Girl is not a troll - thank you... why would some one say that anyway?
"Is it amazing that we have almost no response about incest?" - i wanted to comment, and yet... what could i say... sorry? , that doesn't seem enough.
"Considering my life... would I have been better without Jack?" - i've 'gone down that road', and my feeling, belief, whatever, is - i am what i am, i am happy, i am grateful for so much. ie: my beautiful children; everything in my life, has led me to this point... so, i wouldn't change a thing.
but hey, that's just me.