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what2do
cb1000rider,
please explain how a person has a fabricated opinion?. That is what you said about my post. Obviously, only your opinion is honest! An opinion is how I see something and my views on it. How can I fabricate that.
Are you trying to say my thoughts, feelings, opinions have no value with you? If I were a "brother" is this how I would be treated if I shared my thoughts with you? Is this some of your integrity you learned at MKP?
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Tim
Skepticmd,
Unfortunatly these post are not entirely accurate. How could they be. I hear a lot of anger and fear... and trust issues. I am also open for questions about the mankind project.
From your statements you are an MKPer???? If so are you "man" enough to answer and comment on my following statements? Do you have the "Guts"? ..............
I think is takes a more of a man to share these personal things with your wife and a coward to keep them secret!
What started my worries was the fact that my husband drove our new "used" car about 300 miles to get to where the meetings were. He promised to call me when he got there to let me know that the vehicle made it there safely. He left on a Friday noon, he never called, I didn't know anything until he got home about 2am on Sunday night. We had a mild argument over this, and then this continual, I can't tell you that to almost every question I asked. Only that he could tell me how he "felt". I was so frustrated. I started thinking, what kind of group that is supposed to be healthy for a family would do this to a family, make the men feel as if they have to keep "secrets" from their spouse? And yes, I understand that sometimes, men need groups that they "hang" with, that they don't tell much to their spouse, I understand that, but not to every single question. What kind of "integrity" is that? Which is what he kept saying, I have to keep my integrity and not speak about this weekend. I was feeling as if I was being asked to "throw away" my integrity and allow this kind of "secret" into our 20 year relationship. I was very afraid for him and for us. And then he started trying to talk me into going to a "weekend retreat". NNNOOOO I said. So, I started researching, coming up with nothing, except their websites which of course is all about how good they are. I also started calling my state agencies and realizing, they are not listed as a business, or non profit or or or. AND that a link from firstgov.gov listed them as an LGAT. This made me nervous, I do have the understanding that some LGAT's can be beneficial, but, one with no info about them anywhere, no nonprofit listings, no business licenses, and the fact that they wanted my husband to "pledge" money's to them and give them money on a continual basis, I felt these people were playing with fire. Then I found this site, and, here I am. And my husband was "VERY" gungho about the weekend.
I also started calling my state agencies and realizing, they are not listed as a business, or non profit or or or, actually since this statement I have found many IRS forms in regards to MKP using seudo names to hide who they are. Seems to be a couple million that is going into someones pockets!!!!!!!
I have issues with where the money is going, and with their secretiveness. I feel that they need to become more aware of how their action's can be "VERY PAINFUL" to some families and somehow start dealing with this other than telling the spouse to keep everything secret. Integrity seems to be a large part of this group and as far as I am concerned secretiveness has nothing whatsoever to do with integrity. I feel that part is wrong and that they are breaking their own "rules" in this regards.
I do understand that I could be up against him having some ideas "that he was brainwashed" with. AND I AM TRYING TO PROCESS. This really F***ING sucks, having to fight my gut feeling with what my husband whom I have always trusted is telling me.
"And if a marriage is strong, I think it encourages growth and change and honesty. " When a man goes through a weekend of denial of food, sleep, wedding rings, phones, etc. and is put through an intense weekend of LGAT, and then told he has to give an "oath" of secrecy, how does that encourage honesty in a relationship????????????????????? I see you breaking your own integrity with this one!!!!!!! Real men lie to their wives? Is that the truth of MKP ??????
Yes, they are deprived, (I know this as FACT!!!!!!!!) sacred items such as wedding rings, reading materials, phones, sleep, food, etc. etc. etc. etc. and yes it is "secret", a "man" has to give an "oath" of secrecy!!!!!!!!!!
Your statements:
"There is no mysterious 'secrecy'"
No? Would you tell us about Saturday night? Would you tell your wife about it? How about Sunday morning?
"There are a bunch of good reasons for the confidentiality" -- yes, imagine your wife's face if you told her all that went on!
My answer:
So, within this men's group, integrity, honesty, guilt/shame is talked about and how a "man" should keep his integrity and honesty and not do anything that would cause him guilt/shame and if he does he should talk about it and "feel" it. So, if what happened is something you would not tell your wife about, is that not a form of guilt/shame as to what went on??? If it was something that you are "embaressed" about, or know it is something that would be painfull to a person you are supposed to love and respect, do you really think that is something "normal" and "healthy" for youself and your relationship? I just keep seeing in so many places where this group talks about all kinds of what I would think of as "good, healthy" action's, and then do the opposite of all they are spouting.
I would like for someone who is or have been in MKP to answer some of the statements that I have made on this site!!!!!!! Read my posts!!!!!!!!!!! None of you seem inclined to answer truthfully. What about your "integrity" how is keeping secrets from your spouse considered "integrity, and honesty?" How is talking to a group of people that have no training in counseling and have no legal responsibility of confidentiality suposed to be "trust worthy"? How is a wife, then supposed to feel confident in speaking with her spouse about things and trust that he will keep those issues within their relationship and not with a bunch of "hoo haa men?" How is a wife supposed to keep her ability to trust her spouse to keep her "secrets" within their relationship? You guys seem to have no "real" integrity and honesty within this issue.......... Read my previous posts god damnit, all of them.... and answer!!!!!!!!!!!!
You state... The people calling this a "cult" don't want to talk about that...
MKP is listed under a government site as being a "watched" LGAT.....LGAT is under the heading "cult" and "watched" because of concern as to how they are doing things and treating people and the amount of money's required and their recruiting techniques.
LGAT is an acronym for "Large Group Awareness Training."
An LGAT is a mechanism for promoting awareness change and rapid, thorough commitment to a cause or idea. LGATs tend to be brief but intense sessions of a few hours or days in which, ideally, participants adopt the message of the 'training' promptly and enthusiastically.
Some see the classic LGAT as utilizing peer pressure and group dynamics in a high-pressure sales environment that promotes uncritical psycho-babbling togetherness and thus markets nebulous memes, and as fostering a propensity to recruit new participants into a participation-oriented pyramid scheme under the guise of providing useful training.
Others see LGAT as a group mind methodology that can be used to accelerate training in specific skills. Improvisational comedy is an example of a skill that is, typically, taught via group-awareness training.
The following information can be found through International Cultic Studies Association www.culticstudies.org <[www.culticstudies.org>]; which I found through a link at firstgov.gov
Historically, LGAT origins trace back, at least in part, to the encounter group movement of the 1960s.
LGATs include:
Context Associates
est/Landmark Education
Exegesis
Garden Company
Insight
Lifespring
ManKind Project
Momentus
Training Phoenix 2000
PSI World
Silva Mind Control/Silva Method
Sterling Institute of Relationships
Whole Mind Learning (WML)
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Tim
Skepticmd,
Unfortunatly these post are not entirely accurate. How could they be. I hear a lot of anger and fear... and trust issues. I am also open for questions about the mankind project.
From your statements you are an MKPer???? If so are you "man" enough to answer and comment on my following statements? Do you have the "Guts"? ..............
I think is takes a more of a man to share these personal things with your wife and a coward to keep them secret!
What started my worries was the fact that my husband drove our new "used" car about 300 miles to get to where the meetings were. He promised to call me when he got there to let me know that the vehicle made it there safely. He left on a Friday noon, he never called, I didn't know anything until he got home about 2am on Sunday night. We had a mild argument over this, and then this continual, I can't tell you that to almost every question I asked. Only that he could tell me how he "felt". I was so frustrated. I started thinking, what kind of group that is supposed to be healthy for a family would do this to a family, make the men feel as if they have to keep "secrets" from their spouse? And yes, I understand that sometimes, men need groups that they "hang" with, that they don't tell much to their spouse, I understand that, but not to every single question. What kind of "integrity" is that? Which is what he kept saying, I have to keep my integrity and not speak about this weekend. I was feeling as if I was being asked to "throw away" my integrity and allow this kind of "secret" into our 20 year relationship. I was very afraid for him and for us. And then he started trying to talk me into going to a "weekend retreat". NNNOOOO I said. So, I started researching, coming up with nothing, except their websites which of course is all about how good they are. I also started calling my state agencies and realizing, they are not listed as a business, or non profit or or or. AND that a link from firstgov.gov listed them as an LGAT. This made me nervous, I do have the understanding that some LGAT's can be beneficial, but, one with no info about them anywhere, no nonprofit listings, no business licenses, and the fact that they wanted my husband to "pledge" money's to them and give them money on a continual basis, I felt these people were playing with fire. Then I found this site, and, here I am. And my husband was "VERY" gungho about the weekend.
I also started calling my state agencies and realizing, they are not listed as a business, or non profit or or or, actually since this statement I have found many IRS forms in regards to MKP using seudo names to hide who they are. Seems to be a couple million that is going into someones pockets!!!!!!!
I have issues with where the money is going, and with their secretiveness. I feel that they need to become more aware of how their action's can be "VERY PAINFUL" to some families and somehow start dealing with this other than telling the spouse to keep everything secret. Integrity seems to be a large part of this group and as far as I am concerned secretiveness has nothing whatsoever to do with integrity. I feel that part is wrong and that they are breaking their own "rules" in this regards.
I do understand that I could be up against him having some ideas "that he was brainwashed" with. AND I AM TRYING TO PROCESS. This really F***ING sucks, having to fight my gut feeling with what my husband whom I have always trusted is telling me.
"And if a marriage is strong, I think it encourages growth and change and honesty. " When a man goes through a weekend of denial of food, sleep, wedding rings, phones, etc. and is put through an intense weekend of LGAT, and then told he has to give an "oath" of secrecy, how does that encourage honesty in a relationship????????????????????? I see you breaking your own integrity with this one!!!!!!! Real men lie to their wives? Is that the truth of MKP ??????
Yes, they are deprived, (I know this as FACT!!!!!!!!) sacred items such as wedding rings, reading materials, phones, sleep, food, etc. etc. etc. etc. and yes it is "secret", a "man" has to give an "oath" of secrecy!!!!!!!!!!
Your statements:
"There is no mysterious 'secrecy'"
No? Would you tell us about Saturday night? Would you tell your wife about it? How about Sunday morning?
"There are a bunch of good reasons for the confidentiality" -- yes, imagine your wife's face if you told her all that went on!
My answer:
So, within this men's group, integrity, honesty, guilt/shame is talked about and how a "man" should keep his integrity and honesty and not do anything that would cause him guilt/shame and if he does he should talk about it and "feel" it. So, if what happened is something you would not tell your wife about, is that not a form of guilt/shame as to what went on??? If it was something that you are "embaressed" about, or know it is something that would be painfull to a person you are supposed to love and respect, do you really think that is something "normal" and "healthy" for youself and your relationship? I just keep seeing in so many places where this group talks about all kinds of what I would think of as "good, healthy" action's, and then do the opposite of all they are spouting.
I would like for someone who is or have been in MKP to answer some of the statements that I have made on this site!!!!!!! Read my posts!!!!!!!!!!! None of you seem inclined to answer truthfully. What about your "integrity" how is keeping secrets from your spouse considered "integrity, and honesty?" How is talking to a group of people that have no training in counseling and have no legal responsibility of confidentiality suposed to be "trust worthy"? How is a wife, then supposed to feel confident in speaking with her spouse about things and trust that he will keep those issues within their relationship and not with a bunch of "hoo haa men?" How is a wife supposed to keep her ability to trust her spouse to keep her "secrets" within their relationship? You guys seem to have no "real" integrity and honesty within this issue.......... Read my previous posts god damnit, all of them.... and answer!!!!!!!!!!!!
You state... The people calling this a "cult" don't want to talk about that...
MKP is listed under a government site as being a "watched" LGAT.....LGAT is under the heading "cult" and "watched" because of concern as to how they are doing things and treating people and the amount of money's required and their recruiting techniques.
LGAT is an acronym for "Large Group Awareness Training."
An LGAT is a mechanism for promoting awareness change and rapid, thorough commitment to a cause or idea. LGATs tend to be brief but intense sessions of a few hours or days in which, ideally, participants adopt the message of the 'training' promptly and enthusiastically.
Some see the classic LGAT as utilizing peer pressure and group dynamics in a high-pressure sales environment that promotes uncritical psycho-babbling togetherness and thus markets nebulous memes, and as fostering a propensity to recruit new participants into a participation-oriented pyramid scheme under the guise of providing useful training.
Others see LGAT as a group mind methodology that can be used to accelerate training in specific skills. Improvisational comedy is an example of a skill that is, typically, taught via group-awareness training.
The following information can be found through International Cultic Studies Association www.culticstudies.org <[www.culticstudies.org>]; which I found through a link at firstgov.gov
Historically, LGAT origins trace back, at least in part, to the encounter group movement of the 1960s.
LGATs include:
Context Associates
est/Landmark Education
Exegesis
Garden Company
Insight
Lifespring
[b:d6aca7d50f]ManKind Project [/b:d6aca7d50f]
Momentus
Training Phoenix 2000
PSI World
Silva Mind Control/Silva Method
Sterling Institute of Relationships
Whole Mind Learning (WML)Quote
Tim
Skepticmd,
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what2do
Ginah, great post. I simply have not had the time to respond to the latest post. I am still flabbergasted at my "fabricated opinions", and then his latest take on it.
How are things with your husband?