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Secular Organizations for Sobriety also known as Save Our Selves is dedicated to providing a path to sobriety, an alternative to those paths depending upon supernatural or religious beliefs. We respect diversity, welcome healthy skepticism, and encourage rational thinking as well as the expression of feelings.
What is SOS?
SOS takes a self-empowerment approach to recovery and maintains that sobriety is a separate issue from all else. SOS addresses sobriety (abstinence) as “Priority One, no matter what!”
SOS credits the individual for achieving and maintaining his or her own sobriety.
SOS respects recovery in any form, regardless of the path by which it is achieved. It is not opposed to or in competition with any other recovery programs.
SOS supports healthy skepticism and encourages the use of the scientific method to understand alcoholism.
SOS provides a non-religious alternative to AA. They have meetings all over the country and the world.
You might want to tell your lawyer, judge, or probation department about them.
Here is the contact adress if you would like to start an SOS group in your community.
sos@cfiwest.orgSOS is brought to you by the secular humanists!
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[b:d914edca67]What is AA doing to try to stop manipulative and exploitive treatment of newcomers to AA by other members? [/b:d914edca67]
The WSO issued a memo about the exploitation of newcomers by AA sponsors and other members.
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According to the memo, leaked to the Glasgow-based Herald newspaper, within AA "there is a small minority of men and women who operate with sick but hidden agendas, and,... they seek self-gratification often at the expense of other members or potential members".
A senior alcohol addiction worker said: "AA [is] in a difficult position: we all put checks and balances in place, but it is very difficult to protect people entirely from abuse of position because the people involved are invariably clever."
[b:d914edca67]What have they done to try to stop it, besides issuing a memo to each group leader?[/b:d914edca67]
Why not at least add something like this, as a warning to the newcomer, to be read at the beginning of each meeting, along with the standard introduction?
*Welcome to Alcoholics anonymous! Our organization has recently become aware of abuses of the program committed by some of those professing to be AA members, and we want to do everything in our power to prevent newcomers from being harmed by others in the program.
*Although we are an organization of men and women coming together for the purpose of helping each other stay sober, there may be those in these rooms who do not have that goal foremost in mind.
*We urge the newcomer to remember this at all times, and exercise the same caution with AA members who are strangers that he or she would in any other social setting.
*Although we do rely on God for our strength and sobriety, we cannot expect him to guard us at all times from harm from our fellow man.
*There may be other members who would attempt to exploit us, for money, sex, or other reasons. There may be some who are not here voluntarily, but have been ordered to attend meetings by their families or the courts. Some people may resent being here, and may not be dedicated to sobriety.
*Although we make a pledge to remain anonymous, we are nevertheless human, and we cannot expect others to always honor our anonymity. It is strongly suggested that you exercise care in choosing friends and confidants in AA, as you would in other social settings.
*We will do our best to help the newcomer find a safe and secure place in our organization, as our sobriety, and, more importantly, the sobriety of the newcomer, depends on it. Our primary goal is to help the alcoholic who still suffers, and we will do our best to see that he or she does not suffer at the hands of those who claim to be here to help him.
*If another AA member does manage to take advantage of you, please remember that anyone can be fooled at times, and that it is not necessarily your fault.
*You were not necessarily "asking for it". Good and bad things happen to all people, whether they be wise or naive, kind or unkind.
*Most of the people you meet here will be on your side.
*A few may not be.
*Choose carefully, and take your time.
*Ultimately, it is up to the individual to protect him or herself.
*Please remember to exercise caution.
From the big book, "working with others:
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Your job now is to be at the place where you may be of maximum helpfulness
to others, so never hesitate to go anywhere, if you can be helpful. You should not
hesitate to visit the most sordid spot on earth on such an errand. Keep on the
firing line of life with these motives, and God will keep you unharmed.
That's another part of the big book I have seen interpreted in dangerous ways.
The victim can be, (and often is), blamed for any ill that might befall him.
Other AA members can, and sometimes do, interpret this passage to imply that the victim had "impure" motives, and therefore God did not protect him. I have heard this kind of nonsense from AA members, a lot. (They call it "tough love".)
[b:d914edca67]"God-fearing" people get hurt, sometimes killed, by those they are trying to help, all the time.[/b:d914edca67]