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barabara
to colter:
The question is in bold red. Are you just being clever?
Yes, you're very funny.
There is no point in discussing this further with you, as you will obviously use any trick at your disposal to obfuscate the argument.
Furthermore, you continually resort to insult to do so.
I am through with you, (but not this topic).
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[b:0467df30b4]What is AA doing to try to stop manipulative and exploitive treatment of newcomers to AA by other members?[/b:0467df30b4]
[www.orange-papers.org]
I love this guy!
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[b:0467df30b4]The Twelve Biggest Lies of A.A.[/b:0467df30b4]
[b:0467df30b4]Everything good that A.A. members do is Alcoholics Anonymous, but the bad things that A.A. members do is not really A.A... If a sponsor does some despicable thing that is not council-approved to a sponsee, then that doesn't count.[/b:0467df30b4]
No reasonable person would criticize A.A., because A.A. is a wonderful organization that has saved millions.
• Anyone who criticizes Alcoholics Anonymous is just a dry drunk.
• Or he's just somebody who doesn't want to quit drinking.
• Or he's just somebody who doesn't want to get too good too soon.
• Or he's just an atheist who can't stand to hear the terrible 'G' word "God" mentioned.
• Or he's just somebody who is boxing with God.
After, 19 years, knowledge of these non-religious forms of recovery has not yet reached the less metropolitan area of the country I live in.Quote
Today there are SOS groups meeting in every state, as well as in other countries. SOS has gained recognition from rehabilitation professionals and the nation's court systems.
[b:3fc424a460]In November of 1987, the California courts recognized SOS as an alternative to AA in sentencing offenders to mandatory participation in a rehabilitation program[/b:3fc424a460].
According to the memo, AA does feel that on some level they are responsible for the welfare of their members.Quote
[b:3fc424a460]AA acts on rising reports of attacks by volunteers[/size:3fc424a460][/b:3fc424a460]
An internal memorandum circulated to every Alcoholics Anonymous group in the country reveals that volunteer members are increasingly being investigated by police forces examining allegations of sexual abuse.
Public exposure of the memo is embarrassing to AA, but the document itself was being interpreted yesterday as an attempt by the group to confront the ills which have long dogged other voluntary organisations.
A senior alcohol addiction worker said: "It came as a bit of a shock to me and I have never picked up on these allegations before.
It is understood the chair of AA's York-based general services board drafted the memo after being made aware of the rising number of police investigations. It was issued as a consultation document to autonomous groups across the country and the board is hoping to find new ways of framing guidance to prevent further abuse.
It warns that the organisation has the "potential to become a breeding ground for predatory behaviour".[/color:3fc424a460]
A spokeswoman for AA yesterday confirmed the leaked document was genuine, but refused to comment further.
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Our Mission: We, of Alcoholics Anonymous feel nothing is of greater importance to the future of the global AA fellowship -that is the local groups and individual alcoholics worldwide- than to recover and unselfishly help others to recover from alcoholism
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On February 3rd, 1990 I attended my first AA meeting. I was not to drink alcohol or do drugs from that day on, and I remain sober to this day.
I was in my mid-twenties and had never been to any 12-step program in my life. I was looking for help and just didn't know where to go. A friend suggested I go and check out this meeting. He had told me these people helped him with the same problems I described to him. I had no idea what I was walking into. Little did I know it would be a blessing and a curse.
As I studied the available literature, I learned a great deal about the founders and as well as the Christian history of AA. As I read and learned, I would share this newfound info and its impact in meetings. I had also met a woman in an Alano club and started dating her. I greatly enjoyed learning and thinking again. My reasoning was simple--if the founders of the program created it, they surely would reveal the goals and secrets of this 12-step magic. The flowing opinions and rumors roaming about were plentiful. So I studied and searched.
During this time, I had received a very intense lack of support from within the fellowship.[b:8958d115c7] At times, I was warned that thinking could get me drunk. This concept confused and angered me. Thinking was bad, wrong and destructive? [/b:8958d115c7]I quickly was forced to find a rebuttal for this attack. I would reply, all thinking can't be bad; I think the 12-steps helped me, so how can thought be bad?
I had stumbled onto a copy of the original manuscript of the Big Book and studied that. Since I was on the board of directors of this Alano club I frequented, I suggested that we print and distribute this manuscript, which was very direct and was not watered down. It also was not edited as the current edition was. My position was that we should have any literature for sale at our private club that might enhance knowledge and understanding of our fellowship. We agreed to think it over and meet the following week. Much to my surprise, when we met that following week, four representatives from AAWS (Alcoholics Anonymous World Services) corporate headquarters were there to speak. My girlfriend was downstairs and waited patiently.
This wasn't happening, this couldn't be happening.[b:8958d115c7] Right before my eyes these representatives were suggesting this information was harmful and not to be distributed.[/b:8958d115c7] In logic, we call this form of argument ad misericordian. They were appealing to the sympathy of the newcomer to the board. I was still in shock that these trusted servants would attend a private meeting at a private club and use their status as a means to accomplish their task.
The other board members quickly were subdued by the assumed authoritative positions. But I was not. This was a private club under its own bylaws and private charter. This group of representatives had no authority in matters dealing with the activities and actions of this club. Nonetheless, before my eyes, they molded the minds of the members using fear of outcast from AAWS.
After the meeting, I confronted the group and told them they were in violation of their own traditions. After we debated some issues, when their arguments no longer held up, they asked me if I would consider becoming a representative. They said they needed people like me. To this day, I find this amusing.
I could no longer deny the fact that the more time I had under my belt sober, the more I saw unhealthy behavior and reasoning amongst my peers.[b:8958d115c7] I saw the notion of being powerless taken to the extreme. [/b:8958d115c7]The claim that meetings were important was only coming from within the meetings. Types of circular reasoning based on superstition ran rampant. [b:8958d115c7]A radical anti-intellectual theme coupled with moral silence filled the fellowship.[/b:8958d115c7] There was this silent agreement amongst the group, raised to an eerie level.[b:8958d115c7] No matter what the conduct of a member, no one ever spoke up.[/b:8958d115c7] At four years sober, reality met me face to face.
[b:8958d115c7]It is commonplace in meetings to hear about how someone did a wrong, yet were celebrated because they didn't drink after doing that wrong. [/b:8958d115c7]The phrase still angers me today: [b:8958d115c7]But I didn't drink.[/b:8958d115c7] The I didn't drink over it mindset was applauded when my x-girlfriend shared about her emotional turmoil. The true irony was that she induced her own turmoil and was applauded for her abstinence.
I wish to assure you I have no anger towards AA or the fellowship; I write out of concern for those engulfed in the 12-step subculture. In all of my study and historical readings I have found one common theme. [b:8958d115c7]Early AA was about bringing you back to society and living life, not about creating a subculture and cult-like mentality to dwell in. [/b:8958d115c7]So even today you will find some within AA that deny its current trends. It is akin to a civil war. No one seems to care. No one is listening. The 75k yearly incomes of AAWS representatives, the contradictory logic, the ignorance of history, the immorality, the self-defeating notions of God and the control superstition has on them is meaningless in the feeling-dominated culture they have created. They feel good and that's all that matters. [b:8958d115c7]The goal is to feel good at any cost, regardless of the reasoning and ramifications.[/b:8958d115c7] Some in the fellowship truly believe without the fellowship or meetings they will not survive. Strange how it hasn't dawned on any of them that they heard that in a meeting or from the fellowship itself.
May God bless and help those who are seeking recovery to become healthy, moral and productive citizens once again.
Author's note: You are welcome to do as you wish with my article (that includes gso.org). It is a gift.[b:8958d115c7] We should never run from truth, but embrace it.[/b:8958d115c7] If I can ever help an alcoholic, I will. This includes dignity, truth and honor.
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(Written by Dr. Ciaran Mulholland, consultant psychiatrist/senior lecturer in mental health)
[b:aebeb82df9]Men and addiction[/b:aebeb82df9][/size:aebeb82df9]
[b:aebeb82df9]Men are much more likely to be addicted to alcohol and other substances than women.[/b:aebeb82df9] Two thirds of attendees at Alcoholics Anonymous are men (although this figure was 80 per cent in 1972).
Never being married or becoming single is associated with increased alcohol consumption, while getting married is associated with a drop in alcohol consumption.
The phrase 'addictive personality' is used so commonly in our culture that few of us question whether an addictive personality type really exists, yet [b:aebeb82df9]many doctors and psychiatrists believe that the term means nothing. [/b:aebeb82df9]Certainly, [b:aebeb82df9]there is little evidence for an addictive personality as such. [/b:aebeb82df9]
[b:aebeb82df9]It is important to remember that no personality is immune to addiction.[/b:aebeb82df9]
Modern, well-organised studies do not support a role for personality in addiction.
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[b:bf3187467b]Viewed as the Twelve Step Alcoholism Movement, rather than as a single isolated organization, the Program actually looks more cult-like and sinister.[/b:bf3187467b]
Many AA members use a standard response to charges of brainwashing with a clichéd witticism, saying, "well, my brain certainly needed washing".Quote
Those who are recovering in AA, or who have had loved ones join the Program, are understandably reluctant to see anything untoward in the organization they feel has benefitted them immeasurably. But AA has been labeled a cult, not just by its calumniators and critics, but by some of its sincerest friends and supporters.
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Does AA use brainwashing, more properly known as mind control? Is AA a mind control environment? The answer is yes. AA uses all of the methods of mind control, which are also the methods used by cults.