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This is probably the best advice. She's lost it for awhile, like lost on a altering drug. You have to accept that for all your guidance she'll have to make it out by herself. Obviously an experience like this could 'taint' any future relationship with this person. But if you step back and be available (if that's possible now), then I'm sure a time will come when she'll need your support. After surviving Landmark, she may need plenty of support and understanding.
Jack Oskar Larm,
Thanks for your words and I believe you're right. I do need to step aside and let go of wanting to control and 'break' the impending fall. Maybe that won't even happen, maybe she'll just wake up one day with a full awakening, thinking to herself "those f--kers!!" Or maybe I need to plan for a time when she needs a friend that she does not think will judge her or reject her. I may have caused some damage there, I hope it isn't permanent. Hindsight really sucks too.
I've never been in a position of having to watch someone self-destruct in a cult. I've seen destruction with drugs, alcohol and sick relationships, not this! It just seems too absurd that it should have the same devasting effect or death grip. I am only beginning to realize fully that this 'cult epidemic' is right up there with other mind grabbing/altering drugs and anyone is fair game if they try it. I am so absolutely powerless and so pissed off.
I feel the most hope when I go over the posts of ex-LE staff and members and see that there is life and recovery after LE. I'm so sick of this roller coaster ride and so sick of being pissed off about it. This letting go stuff is easier said than done, in fact its down right humiliating in its difficulty! :(