Wow, trial by blog, interesting...
My wife couldn't care less about commenting, she is a high powered executive with a major airline and has better things to do with her time. I asked, she looked at your post for a moment and said "no thanks, my words won't make any difference".
We both had a good laugh over the "allow" statement, thanks for that!
Re Divorces... there was research done (and is ongoing) and actually we are below the divorce average, and I'm sorry that things went negatively for you.
You are right about the guilty part, I damn well better feel guilty if I screwed up! I was referring to independent moods but I wasn't clear. She suffers from migraines and travels so much that I willingly cater to her when she's home...which sometimes makes her feel guilty... you probably know how that goes! :?
Sorry about using such strong language like "bizarre" but the word fits for me. I have no clue how these materials became basterdized AND I also said some of them are difficult to judge without the larger context. I would agree with you that they 'sound' strange isolated like that. I freely admit in my last post that I thought some of the stuff was weird when I went through in 1992. I've staffed so many since then that I've lost some of my awareness of how odd some of it sounds. I should be more aware because I use lots of the techniques in my consulting practise and often even the mildest of techniques can blow a group away. I've learned over the years to introduce the processes very carefully in corporate surroundings.
Let's see what else? I am just getting used to blogging, I lost several last week when I timed out. Is there a way to do this differently?
Oh the judges. I will have to ask some of them, I have no idea what the consequence of taking this from a comment to a detailed citation. Sorry, that's the best I can do for you at the moment and I will be away in Asia with my wife for a few weeks. And they may say no to your request in which case you'll have to choose whether or not to simply believe me.
Google an article that appeared in an Australian publication a few years ago, a judge talked about sending men to the NWTA there, it's a fleeting memory but check that out.
Finally, your husband was 'angrier'. Was that his challenge before the Weekend? Was he an angry man or was he quiet? All I can say or do in a public forum is to tell you this feedback hits me to my core. I wish we could do it right every time and that every man 'gets it' the same way I did.
Professional psychologists and Psychiatrists have assured me that this form of education about emotions, beliefs and reactions is dangerous ground to tread on. Unfortunately, many professionals in the biz use drugs to moderate these possible reactions and you know how many people believe that these professionals overdrug their patients. It's a tough challenge. Some men come to the Weekend all 'bottled up' and it's only 48 hours and the I-groups are NOT supposed to replace therapy. Some men lie about their pre-existing conditions and HIPPA laws don't allow us to do any investigation.
Sadly I do hear that some men go into a weird funked out zone and become abusive or reclusive. I have a very good friend who that happened to and his wife went through another different form of hell (he was not great to live with before) and it took him two years to get it. He simply had lived his life for everyone else for so long that it took him years to 'grow up' and finally become a full partner in his marriage and parent to his many children and boss to his employees. This man is a high powered and world reknowned physician.
I have no idea how we could have predicted this and there was no way in the world that this man would ever allow himself to get psychological treatment. He was a little boy acting out like a God and he had more money than God. The only reason he went was because I used to play Rugby with him and I told him he wouldn't be able to last the 48 hours.
Anyway, it finally worked out but it was a struggle. Sometimes people want instant results and life just doesn't work out that way.
The upside is that wife saw me last year for the first time since I moved to the States 6 years ago. She hugged me like I was a long lost brother and her husband actually had a tear in his eye! Life is good and we all enjoyed my daughter's wedding together.
Later and I'll say a prayer tonight for all the women who were sideswiped and the men who simply didn't respond well...
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I've read outright lies and confusing interpretations with cute little comments. Someone has deliberately changed the words OR someone else did and you downloaded incorrect data.
This is interesting GFT99, my husband has been to the NWTA and I-Groups, he has read this manual, he says that it is fairly right on as to what took place on the weekend. Is he lying to me? Or is he misinterpreting what he went through compared to what he is reading? Hmmm, or maybe he is just creating his own reality?
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My wife has never cared AT ALL that there are parts of the training that I don't talk about.
I request that you “allow” your wife to share her thoughts and opinions on this site herself.
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bizarre interpretation of the Weekend
Interesting statement, bizarre? Our opinions have come from our experiences. Are you telling us that we are imagining our experiences? That we are lying about our experiences? Or that our reality is…….misinterpreted?
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Do we have divorces. Yes...at about the same level as the general public... which surprised.
What proof do you have that the divorces within MKP is at the same level as the general public? Scientific data? Studies? Or just your opinion?
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Judges have ordered men to take the NWTA as an anger management tool.
Show me where this has happened; give me the name of the judges who have done so that I can research this for myself. Otherwise you are just “I will use your words here” saying outright lies and confusing interpretations with cute little comments.
MY experience showed me that NWTA made my husband a far angrier person than he had ever been before. So, that can be “interpreted” any way you like.
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I also stopped feeling guilty or angry if she was in a bad mood.
I agree, if your wife is just in a bad mood that has nothing to do with you, then you should not feel guilty, but if she is feeling pain at something you have said/done then you should feel guilty. It sounds like you do not respect your wife. You, are a secret keeper.