One of the main tactics used by Bernard Poolman is to manufacture a sense of guilt and consequently mistrust as regards anything or anyone outside of the Desteni group process. He claims that there is so much crime, poverty, starvation etc because people won't recognise their own responsibility; they have "accepted and allowed" these things to happen. The upshot of this line of "common sense" reasoning is that the answer to poverty, starvation, exploitation and abuse is to take part in Desteni. Potential members can start by forgiving themselves for having "allowed" such horrible things as rape and child abuse to have happened. In Desteni, even a person's sexual fantasies are regarded as contributing to a situation where rape and child abuse continues in the world. So for instance Sunette Spies' videos on the subject, such as
SEX and Masturbation SUPPORT to STOP Child Molesters --HoM87
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purport to describe how a person should overcome inclinations to masturbate and fantasize about sex and thereby help to bring an end to rape and child abuse. This seems like an outlandish and unrealistic notion but so are most of the Desteni concepts, and many of them focus on generating a sense of guilt. In this instance it is a method of making people associate their sexual responses with the Desteni process through feeling guilty about having sexual fantasies. The idea being that Desteni can impose a measure of influence over how a person regards themselves and others sexually and ultimately then exert total control over their mental, emotional and physical identity and activities.
RyanPaulFranklin finds himself in a situation where his ordinary thoughts and sexual feelings are being increasingly dictated to by the Desteni program. A dilemma has been created because of the trust he has placed in Desteni. The only solution he can find to his confusion is to go and work on the Desteni farm. He makes a direct plea to Bernard Poolman: "what is going on with me?"
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But what is going on with RyanPaulFranklin in that video is that he has been tricked by Desteni into imagining that he has problems that can only be solved by Desteni.
The identity and experience of members of Desteni in relation to their friends and family also become issues that are made to seem as though they can only be dealt with by further immersion in Bernard Poolman's bizarre world-view. For example, LLCraver's YouTube channel presents videos where she refers to problems with her family's reaction to her involvement with Desteni. She describes how they tell her she is brainwashed but that she is happy to be brainwashed.
FAMI:LIE FRENEMIES AND REHATE:SHUN:SHIPS - SAILING INTO DELUSION!
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In another of her videos,
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the Desteni-imposed guilt kicks in and LLCraver talks in a distressed state about how "it hurts to know how you have contributed to so much suffering in the world". She used to have lots of friends but now has none . . .
gabrielietsanders of Desteni dedicates a video to notions such as that "friendship is pure self-dishonesty", "friendship is irrelevant, the word 'friend' has no meaning, there is no love in friendship, only fear" . . .
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And there are countless such videos, blogs etc produced by these and other Destenites where the same kinds of sentiments are expressed. Yet the question here is not to do with some kind of ad hominem "attack" on the personalities involved, as Poolman would like to imagine. It is to do with the specific strategies he and his chosen core group in Desteni employ to manipulate others' personalities.
Through the "Structural Resonance Alignment" course, through work on "the resonances", "agreements" in relationships and so on, Desteni members' relationships with each other and with others outside the program become a public matter that is monitored and steered by the Desteni organization.
Bernard Poolman takes great delight in putting Katie Conklin (who runs "Desteni Education" with Cameron Cope, website of which is registered in the name of Poolman's wife, Esteni De Wet) on the spot with various questions about her personality and sexuality, while her facial reactions are scrutinized in these videos:
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The person operating the camera deliberately avoids showing Poolman's face, which suggests he had told them to do so. That isn't very "self-honest" of him. Neither is it "equal and one" with the average Destenite. Going back to an earlier part of this thread, Daryll Thomas of Desteni claimed that the reason Poolman tries as much as possible to avoid showing his face is because it might start a cult of personality. Yet Poolman has already started a cult based on his control over others' personalities.