Cultreporter,
Dear, sweet Lady,
Your research, knowledge and commentary on the cult is superb. At some point, if only for your own well being, you will have to put the disappointed love in perspective. Yes, it was part of your cult experiences, but not totally because of it. I do not agree with truth as it is” when he/she said that there was no cure for the pain.
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Cult, your words take us back to that heartache, as we age and become harder,
I don’t agree. We can also become more pliable, forgiving, and understanding. Just look at some of the old Tai Chi masters in China. The same thing can be attained emotionally, mentally and spiritually as you age. I have met these kind of elders. This idea (of becoming harder) is an old Siddha/Sai “Youth culture” teaching.
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TheTruthAsItIs
we forget those youthful feelings that once were so intense and very painful. "Devastation" is a good word to describe rejection ... you have at least common ground with Siddha on that, something like I remember him saying "tearing the wings off a fly". There is no cure for this pain,
No cure? Just not true. You learn to put things in perspective and prioritize. Most of all you gain wisdom and acceptance. You come to know that even bad events can ultimately be for good. If nothing more than to provide a contrast and gain appreciative and thankful hearts.
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but I suspect Siddha went on to set up his whole thing as a defence mechanism, as a way to never go through that horror again.
No doubt. Only he got stuck in this reactive hell and compensated for it by becoming a self-deluded guru. Being stuck in his guru role, he compensates in all manner and forms to shore up and maintain this lie.
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Put your love on the spiritual plane, and it can never be violated (at least by earthly means) again.
“Put your love on the spiritual plane” to the exclusion of all others!??? This is krishna philosophy. This is how Rama gets blown off by his parents. This is the excuse your wimp used. How does one really do this? And why is it not possible to go in the other direction – to bring the spiritual plane down to earth? Oil and water is the usual argument. But hasn’t anyone ever heard of an emulsifier!?[b:e2fb9d899e]*[/b:e2fb9d899e] (You’ll have to figure out what that might be in your own life.) As I stated before, it is this very belief system that excuses the neglect of wives, husbands, children, friends, and family. There is no responsibility to the other. It even justifies sociopathic behavior and criminal activity.
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A person like this actually has a very soft heart behind the multiple facades, a person like this is very aware of the hurt that can be experienced by a child (which is like the touch of a butterfly's wings), that most us would not even be dimly aware of ... extreme acute perceptions.
I’m not sure if “truth as it is” is talking about Siddha or your wimp here. It sounds like what we were always led to believe – of Siddha’s acute awareness and sensitivities because of his spiritual enlightenment. Bullsh*t. You find the same “sensitivities” in a psychiatric ward.
Your grief over the wimp is painful, but you have a choice. You have the ability to nourish and feed the disappointment or to focus on making your life better and finding a real man. If you were my daughter I would say these same things to you. Chances are this man would have rejected you with or without the cult. He just used the cult as a convenient excuse. You are worthy of a good relationship and a man who will treat you right. Don’t beat a dead horse. Don’t look back and become a pillar of salt like Lot’s wife. There is a light-hearted book filled with a lot of truths about men called, “He’s Just Not That Into You”, by Greg Behrendt,Liz Tuccillo. Wimp qualifies here. Don’t think that if he was free from the cult that he would have appreciated you. It was never in his nature. If he really wanted you, he would have stayed with you in spite of family/cult objections. He used you. Period. End of story. Now focus your energies on positive things and relationships.
[b:e2fb9d899e]I also have a real concern that Hare Krishna recruiters are trolling this site to “rescue” ex-Siddha followers in distress. Be careful of going out of the frying pan into the fire. Be wary of being used by those who offer another guru. One person said that you have been approached by several temples offering you shelter. I encourage you to continue to write and rebuild your life. Be cautious of those who want you to expose things indiscriminately. Again, please get legal counsel for your protection.[/b:e2fb9d899e]
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