I think a large part of the problem, is sometimes people into the "spiritual" thing, can be far "too nice" and far to gentle with this difficult material.
For example, in REAL cognitive therapy, its not just about logic(information), and its not about being only "loving" and "spiritual".
Its about having real emotions, and there are many Emotive techniques, that are very powerful.
Many folks in the "spiritual" area seem to get trapped into being afraid of expressing some healthy anger, and getting upset.
To be honest, one cannot imagine how it could be possible to escape from the clutches of Byron Katie, by simple "logic" or by being "spiritual". Its not possible.
These powerful cultic techniques, need to be disputed using every method there is.
It seems the most neglected, other than critical thinking, is using healthy powerful Emotive methods, to set boundaries.
Janaki's analysis, seems to be done in an honest way.
But one will never really escape from that kind of trap, without really connecting to one's own powerful emotional boundaries.
For example, the End Of Suffering by Byron Katie, is not a mistake. BK knows its complete bullshit! Why does she know? Because she is still miserable most of the time, and just play-acts she is not. She knows she is play-acting on-stage.
Also, anyone working in an LGAT knows the LGAT's doesn't work. Why? The same people keep coming back year after year, with the SAME problems! If you work in an LGAT company, its embarrassing, to see the same people, with the same problems. But hey, to them its money.
so personally, as soon as we see a false-claim, its time to speak up, and shout it from the housetops.
I notice below, that she said in the past she "held back".
its very important in these cultic groups, to be emotionally honest and call it as you see it.
Its interesting how so-called "blue collar" people don't seem to get duped as much into these cults.
Why? maybe because they call bullshit bullshit, on the spot!!
only the more "elegant spiritual" folks, are "too nice to speak up".
This happens in SALES as well. Salespeople know, especially with many people, they want to avoid conflict, so they raise a stink in the negotiations, and the customer backs down.
If a salesperson shit stinks, speak up bluntly!
Byron Katie is a salesperson.
Being blunt is very important, that is why personally I am blunt. Gentle flowery words can't work against a cultic structure.
That's my blunt thought!
The End of Suffering is a marketing trick, preying on the deluded fantasy of humans to escape the human condition.
Chapter 33 of Janaki's blog:
The End of Suffering
‘The end of suffering’ brings me to my own personal loyalty conflict that I have been experiencing towards Katie for several years. I would hold back when addressing this, because I didn’t want to contradict her publicly.
I find it highly misleading to promise people ‘The End of Suffering’. It is a sublime marketing phrase. As I am typing this, I can almost hear Katie say, ‘not to end it forever, just for now’. Wonderful words, and they still hold a promise of a lifetime of everlasting joy.
Katie says that The Work isn’t about improvement and you shouldn’t do it with any other motive than the love of truth. For a long time I would faithfully repeat this, however I can see now that saying the only motive is the love of truth, is the same as saying it will bring you the end of suffering, only with more evasive and misleading words.
Even though answering the questions will bring about a relief in suffering; suffering will continue to arise. You may learn to look at it in another way that is more productive, you may learn to deal with it in a way that is less self-destructive, but it will arise.
I object therefore to the way The Work is being promoted on Katie’s website. This is what it says about The School: ‘This is the ultimate inner adventure. Unlike every other school on earth, this one isn’t for learning-it’s for unlearning. You’ll spend nine days losing the fear-based stories you’ve innocently clung to all your life’.
I have heard Katie talk about a planet without war through ending the war inside of you. I have heard her talk about the end of violence. I look at nature and I see violence. Are we going to end earthquakes and tornadoes and tsunamis?