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I like the frog and scorpion story but don't think it applicable here. Human beings are considerably more removed from their basic natures than either frogs or scorpions, they are socialised from birth to rise above the instinct to kill for pleasure or gain or simply because of a whim of the moment.
Whatever James Ray learned from his own early socialisation process, he has also spent a lifetime immersed in a culture with a very heavy taboo against killing that is constantly reinforced from all sides. It takes a willful disrespect of that taboo, exercised over a very long time, to allow the disregard of the lives of his fellows that JAR has shown.
When I say Ray doesn't have a choice, I don't mean he isn't disciplined, can't control himself, or can't appear to fit in with the surrounding culture. The ability to make those choices serves his pathology, and it's the pathology that's compulsory.
Sociopathy, like true pedophilia, isn't a choice and isn't curable. Sociopaths cannot change. Ray, like a scorpion, is what he is: a socialized psychopath.
Pedophiles, like sociopaths, understand perfectly well that their behavior violates moral and civil laws; lack of understanding and socialization isn't their problem, and no amount of jail time, victim impact statements, or psychological counseling affects them in the slightest.
Pedophiles usually exert a great deal of control over certain aspects of their behavior. They're careful to keep their activities concealed, they threaten their victims so they won't tell, and they work very hard to be either the kind of person children like or the kind of person children inevitably spend time with. Those are all choices, and they all serve the pedophile's pathology, just as a sociopath's choices serve his pathology.
Monsters exist, and James Ray is one of them. Unfortunately, he looks like a human being. He understands there are laws, and he probably obeys some of them, not because he has a conscience, but because he's a socialized psychopath, and appearing to conform to middle-class norms is a very useful part of that socialization.
If he'd had a serious criminal record, didn't know how to put on a suit and tie and brush his teeth, or didn't have the social skills middle-class professionals expect, Oprah would never have presented him to her viewers as an expert on how to live.
He also wouldn't have been able to attract the kinds of people he likes to use. People with enough money to buy him the expensive toys he uses to impress himself and others, with enough desire for better lives that they'll place themselves in situations where he can legally torture them, and with enough social capital that he can demonstrate--once again to himself and others-- that he's an important, superior person.
The Jungian analyst Clarissa Pinkola Estes wrote a wonderful essay several years ago about the very instructive fairytale Bluebeard.
She made the point that the world contains all kinds of people, and some of them, like Bluebeard, are ethically and spiritually deformed. They're just that way, and that's it. They endanger humans just by being who they are, and since they cannot be reasoned with or rehabilitated, they must be caged and contained.
In the fairytale, Bluebeard is an immensely wealthy, sophisticated man who lives in a marvelous castle. He's looking for a bride, and approaches a family with several daughters. The older sisters turn him down cold, because there's something about him that makes the hair on the backs of their necks stand up whenever he's around. He's off-putting, despite his friendliness and great personal charm. And then there's that odd blue beard. He just seems a little off.
But the youngest sister is intrigued, and decides to overlook her sisters' petty prejudices. Why judge Bluebeard by appearances and indefinable feelings? He's so much more interesting than the provincial local boys! He's worldly and well-traveled, and, because he's been to exotic places and met all kinds of people, he tells the most fascinating stories. He's also extremely generous, and promises that the woman who marries him will lead a life of luxury and ease.
I think we can all see where this is heading. Bluebeard's young bride, at the very last minute, listens to and acts on her intuition. Unlike the unfortunate people in the Death Lodge, she escapes with her life.
This fairytale has been around a long time; sociopaths existed centuries before psychiatrists labeled them. Bluebeard was one of them, and James Ray appears to be another. In the fairy tale, no one expected to have a sudden insight into his horrible crimes and change his ways; members of the public stopped him from ever hurting anyone ever again. If our court system does not imprison Ray for life, then I hope people will learn one of the other lessons this fairy tale teaches: that a man may smile. and smile, and be a villain.