Byron Katie (the Work) and childhood rape and sexual abuse
Date: March 14, 2009 06:08AM
one of the worst "teachings" of Byron Katie is around childhood sexual abuse and child rape.
Why does she do this?
In terms of her audience, she knows that many in her audience have suffered childhood sexual abuse of some sort, as that can lead to terrible pain that affects people for many years. She targets people who are in severe PAIN.
But BK says she was also sexually abused as a child, and she tells a big story about it, and basically says at the end it was HER FAULT, and then basically denies it ever happened by trying to erase history from the mind. (that is called Change Personal History, from NLP hypnosis).
Well, its one thing for Byron Katie to think that about herself.
But its another thing for her to TEACH that to people in pain.
For people who were sexually abused as children, the most important thing for them to realize is that it was NOT their fault, no matter what. No matter what happened, it is NEVER the child's fault. The adult was the criminal.
Ask any proper psychologist who treats people who have been through this.
Of course, that does not mean a person spends the rest of their life only in "blaming", but they learn to heal in their own way, with proper therapy, etc. Part of healing is appropriate blame, and the blame for child rape goes on the adult. That is reality, and that is the road to psychological healing.
When it comes to sexual abuse, here are two of the worst things a person can do...
complete DENIAL, and SELF-BLAME.
Those are the worst things a person can do.
And that is what Byron Katie teaches.
Why does she teach that? Is it just her own psychological ignorance and pathology?
Or is she aware that teaching that is going to send people into severe self-blame and depression, and even delusion?
Why does she have a "death clause" in her contracts you have to sign before a seminar?
Is that related to suicides of people attend those seminars?
If people blames themselves for childhood sexual abuse, they are going to get severely depressed and guilt-ridden, even suicidal.
If a person DENIES it happened, and just tries to blank it out, then that also causes terrible problems, as has been proven.
This doesn't mean a person then does the opposite, and gets full of rage and hate at the criminal offender and thinks of nothing else. That is not healthy either.
Treatment for this is complex, and has been refined over many years.
But what Byron Katie suggests for dealing with childhood sexual abuse could destroy a person's life.
Why is she even allowed to deal with psychological issues like that in a seminar? She says in her contract that she is NOT doing any type of psychological treatment.
(again, its just word games to cover their asses).
But for people who have been sexually abused as children, please do not listen to a word Byron Katie says on this subject. She is utterly clueless, completely ignorant, and what she is suggesting is extremely damaging, and could even lead to suicidal impulses. (is that why the "death clause" is in her contract you have to sign?).
For sexual abuse, only see licensed, trained, and experienced professionals, who know what they are doing.
You will see just how heinous the "treatment" that Byron Katie offers is. Byron Katie literally knows NOTHING at all about this.
Always carefully evaluate people who say they treat sexual abuse issues. That also applies to licensed professionals.
And always stay away from people like Byron Katie who is completely ignorant of everything about this subject, she knows nothing, absolutely nothing. Maybe that explains part of her pathology and victimizing of others.
But there are many Quacks out there who use the pain of childhood sexual abuse as a profit center.
They know the pain is so bad, people will do anything, pay anything to try to escape it.
Stay away from these quacks like Byron Katie, and many others, at all costs. One day the real story is going to come out about what is going on behind closed doors, and who is getting hurt, and re-victimized.
The good news is there are responsible, licensed, trained professionals who know how to help people, and who charge correct market hourly rates to help people. Some even have a sliding scale, or can be covered by insurance. Recovering from childhood sexual abuse is a medical issue, and needs to be treated as such.