Since, to my surprise, I have been quoted on this page I ought to re-iterate that I have tremendous respect for the attitudes of the JCs - I thought the couple on "Wife Swap" were right-on in many aspects. And I would certainly lend support to any who wanted to leave but could not summon the courage. Dave excepted as he's making his bed and will have to lie in it.
Nice to see you again. Freeganism is something I have complete respect for. At one stage I lived in a community of Freegans that recycled bicycles, made compost and even ran a ' restaurant' that fed up to forty people- including many homeless people on skipped food! I saw drug addicts cared for and ' rehabiliated'- and all of this was done freely. I feel very honoured to have been a part of it.
The difference between that community and the JC's- is that it was a ' spiritual' community instead of a ' religious' one.
Roland and Sue- that you saw on ' Wifeswap'- have been involved in two cases of ' kidnapping' - both involving underage boys. I once sat with Sue where she told me how one of their community members had sexually molested a young boy- the JC's response was to eject him from the community. The man in question was free to molest again- the only issue they had was that he shouldn't be associated with the JC's. Sue's defence seemed to be that the man' was slow'- though I don't doubt that she was telling the truth- it never occured to her as a Christian to get him some help- so that he couldn't do it again.
Appearances are foremost to the JC's.
What the JC's lack- and it makes them extremely dangerous- is any emotional understanding of situations. They have put themselves in a repressive environment- where they have extremely rigid boundaries- and because they are taught to deny their own emotions- after a while- can no longer recognise the emotional needs and rights of others.
For example- in ' Wifeswap' we have Sue trying to force a little girl to eat a mushy bowl of cereal. A little girl who would have been missing her Mum terribly. Someone with a healthy understanding of relationships and emotions would have dealt with this situation in a completely different way. Sue was there to promote Freeganism- not to bully little girls.
What would have endeared her more to the family and all those watching- would've been if she had of eaten the cereal herself and asked the little girl to hold her hand- as everyone knows- mushy cereal - if you're a little girl- is horrible. There are so many situations that could've been avoided if the JC's showed a bit of compassion and understanding instead of rigid groupthink.
Anyhow Coolhermit- hope you stick around. You seem really cool! :)
When I met Sue- her emotional needs weren't being met by her husband. She stuck in the relationship without any knowledge of how to even recognise her own needs- let alone voice them. She instead thrived on the affection and approval she received from Alf. As the Jc's have such a repressive environment - she recieved this as compliments for the dinner she provided- etc. As far as I'm concerned- Sue, Roland and Alf- can have a dysfunctional relationship if they wish- but they should really try and unselfishly put the needs of Danny first.
I was really shocked by what I saw go on in the JC's- and how unaware they were of their own behaviour.