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1) Absolutely no attempts "register" friends into any programs.
2) Do not invite friends to "introductions".
3) Do not use Landmark Education jargon, or loaded language.
If your Landmark Education entrenched friend can abide by these (3) rules, that might make things a little more bearable.
My landmark friend uses the jargon like we use the terms "the" or "and". She uses the language like a person who cannot communicate without the use of the jargon. She has not attempted to recruit me for a long time but she's always on the look-out for someone to recruit. Her belief is that I am the one who needs to make the 'attitude adjustment' as she lives out her pursuit of the lekkie dream. Even when she is not actively trying to recruit me, she cannot disguise how judgmental she is toward me. Her attitude is clear in her manner, distant receptivity, and in her behaviour. I would love to be a friend through the bad times but she does not want a friend like me in this time of her life, she wants a convert to lekkie doctrines and someone who will continually encourage and stroke her ego. I of course, will not do any of those things. She continues to do coaching, introductions, and seeks out more courses to abuse herself with.
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As an ex lekkie I have to add that those friends who toughed it out for me are the ones that I am forever grateful to. It was hard on them but they stayed in contact even though at times it was very strained, and sometimes with gaps in the middle they still kept in contact.
They set some pretty strong boundries which I actually stuck to mostly which included absolutely no attempts by me to register them into any programes or to invite them to any introductions.
You need to decide whether you can stick out the distance..are you able to stay a friend in the hard times
Your friends must have seen a ray of hope in you during your involvement to have been so faithful to you. I don't see the ray of hope for recovery in my friendship because my friend happens to be a very self-assured, never wrong, and proud person. Even if she were to be thinking that she'd been had in a big way by landmark, she would be too proud to humble herself enough to say she was wrong and that she still needs a friend like me in her life. I would bet that you never had the issues with pride that my friend does.
I will remain open to her if she ever needs or wants a friendship, but I will not pursue the friendship like I've always had to either. Her involvement and conversion to this malicious cult has deeply impacted and messed with me personally, I cannot let the impact affect or dictate to my everyday life anymore.