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ON2 LF
I struggle with the thought that, in landmarkia, no one has a true friend. If a person snaps out of the lekkie trance, they've got no one left to be there for them. If I walk or run, my friend is left in the same boat. Where is the healthy boundary?
That's true. If I hadn't kept my normal friends, If they didn't keep in touch with me even when - especially when - I started to lose them for a full-time landmarkia life, I don't know If I'd ever got free. I started to want out when I started to miss my old friends and my old life, and thank God they were there waiting when I escaped. I lost all my landmarkian friends, I cut all the bridges with them. But then, I met them when they were already landmarkians, so I guess I acually never knew them at all, I never really 'lost' anyone, they were already werner erhard wannabe. I have no idea how hard it is to have a loved one lost to a cult, since i was the one lost to a cult. And it is absolutely true that in landmarkia no one has a friend. An no one is a friend. I saw people betraying each other for the sake of the leader's approval or, more often, for their statistics. I saw people who didn't want to share being exposed to public ridicule by their very buddies. Or hundreds of similar little things like that. It is hell inside. The worst was when there are guest. You have to put on your best smile and look enthusiast. I was scared to be caught not smiling to a guest by a leader. If a leader thinks you're responsible for a 'no' from a guest, say your prayers.
Anyway, as I said when I got out I had my friends waiting and supporting me. Also, their doubts about landmark was the only thing my real, non brainwashed self could hang up to in order not to drawn into landmark. I can't speak about any case but mine, of course. So where is the healthy boundary? I don't know. But I can tell you this: landmarkians, all of them, are secretly desperate to be loved without the technology involved. Deep, deep, deep, deep, deep inside everyone wants a way out. If anyone has not completely lost their loved ones to this cult, my personal suggestion is to remind them of pre-cult, non-cult-related experiences and time. When they start to miss even one single thing of their pre-landmark life, well, that's a bigger step on the way out that you could imagine. It takes a lot of patience and courage to stand by a loved one after their indoctrination. I can't say when enough is enough, but one should try as hard as they can.