Thanks all who responded.
Not a day goes by that I do not have to deal with Landmark. This is another aspect that is not often considered. I do not want to attend. I have no interest in attending and I am deeply concerned with my husband's involvement. Therefore, I have to spend as much time as possible trying to understand why he was so "coachable." I can't just tell him "I don't like it so get out". I have to research and talk to people and get as much information as possible just to be able to have a conversation about it with him.
Even though it was not my intention, we ended up having a three-hour conversation about it last night. Express, I'm sorry, maybe you are the exception to the rule, but my husband is not respecting the fact that I do not want to attend. And he is not respecting the fact that I have approached two of the people he has tried to "recruit" (even though he "gave me his word" that he would leave our family and friends alone) to tell them to get information first and then make up their minds. He accused me of interfering.
Our conversation started calm and respectful. By the end, he was accusing me of over-reacting and of being disrespectful to him. I have just taken out the book "Cults in our Midst" and pointed out that Landmark is mentioned in this book and that the author explains their tactics and agenda in great detail. His response - "it's one book, who cares". I have spent the last six weeks reading everything I can find - positive and negative - on the Internet and have tried to share some of this with him. His response - "of course there is more negative, it's human nature to speak out when you don't like something. Guaranteed there is more people who have positive things to say but they won't bother putting up a web page about it".
My husband is an intelligent man who has always pointed out negatives in things before he can talk about the positives. He is known to be a little too cynical and he has always flaunted his independence. Yet, he has embraced Landmark without even blinking. There is something wrong with this picture.
The one thing I cherish in my life is my right to critical thinking. All human beings should have the right to research anything they want before they make a decision. Yet here is my husband telling me that I have no right to tell our friends and family that there is more to Landmark than his side of it. I am not to tell them about my concerns but yet they should trust him when he says it will be good for them. There is something wrong with this picture.
His sister, who at first said she would attend a session with him even though she had reservations, has now she said she would not. His reaction - who did you talk to? Did you talk to my wife? I'm your brother and you should trust me, not her. There is something wrong with this picture.
My cousin, who recruited my husband, is the same way. She refuses to even consider reading about the lawsuits and the controversy (for lack of a better word). She does not have access to the Internet and even though I have told her that maybe she should look at the whole picture, she says that without Landmark her life would be pointless. She has left her apartment, friends and family and spent over $30,000 (all of her savings and retirement money) to buy a business in a different country because she is creating her new possibility. The business is in a tourist town and since she bought it in low-season, she has not been able to make enough money to pay her bills. She refused to use a lawyer or accountant to close the deal. She has no business, marketing or accounting experience, yet she believes she can create this possibility on her own. There is something wrong with this picture.
This picture is Landmark and what it has done and is doing to those closest to me. Express, you may have been able to take their philisophy and create a new life for yourself where you say you respect your friends and family. I believe the majority of Landmark "graduates" cannot. That is what is wrong with Landmark.
Right now my husband is creating the possibility of divorce. Our eight-year old daughter does not deserve this.
[i:8d111ec2d3]Originally posted by patrick-darcy [/i:8d111ec2d3]
can u discuss the fact that so many people
do not respect others wishes.
can u address the fact that there are many
relationships that are destroyed by
attendance at landmark.