I agree with you that these groups need to be exposed. If you read the updated Landmark website, they sound so benign. Yet the actual programs are a different story.
By posting here, Jennie, you are getting the word out. Please let as many people as you can know about this site and your experience. Check out the other posts in this thread, too.
Landmark can be helpful if people are stuck in a rut in life, perhaps with jobs, not knowing what to do next, difficulty making decisions. But these "trained" leaders have no business counselling people on relationships. Both my doctor and the Landmark people I met encouraged me to leave my husband, that I was "settling". They bend their own words to fit their needs. For example, if I had actually left my husband and had regrets, their response would have been that I was running a racket on them, that leaving wasn't really what they meant, that I should have thought up a different solution. Yet (especially my doctor), the message clearly was that by staying, I was not taking responsibility for my own happiness. THey are experts with words.
Perhaps at some point your husband will come to his senses. Once he's away from Landmark, as with many others, the effect the seminars has seems to fade. The language and behavior is not natural.
For now, you are suffering a huge loss and I hope you have a good support system, perhaps a counselor who specializes in cult issues. Please continue to post or PM some of the people here. This web site is quite helpful. Also, [www.DrIrene.com
] has a great web site to deal with the marriage and loss issues (the Catbox forum). There were a few people on their who knew about Landmark.
I've been thru Landmark, too, and have dealt with a "therapist" who used Landmark technology as his treatment of some of my physical problems, with terrible results. I'd be happy to correspond with you either privately or on the board here.