Hi, Miki! Welcome!!
Hey, did you know many of us TRIED to speak and were not allowed? We're not on here primarily to vent, though some may need to at first. We're first and foremost on here to inform and to become informed. I think that's the driving purpose.
As I consider your concerns, I cannot imagine the Villamor kids getting on here and reading all the info. Can you, really? It's a lot to wade through. (Plus their parents forbid the SOMA students from reading on here, so I doubt the kids would be allowed.) But even if they do read the posts, it's not a horrible thing. I don't know about you, but I know there was a time when I became disillusioned about my parents' "perfection." It was the beginning of getting to know them as people (though still respecting them as my parents) and getting to know God as God, shifting my trust from them to the Lord. It's similar to the way God moved you from Turning Point to the place He had for you; there is a time for Christian children to move their trust and affection (the kind that belongs to God alone) to its true Object. Perhaps this juncture is coming in the Villamor children's lives. All I know is that through this, God will be faithful to them.
I actually believe, for the most part, people have been gracious to the Villamors on this site, given the deception, double standards, lack of compassion, false teachings, etc. These things do not make them villans, but fallen people who, like the rest of us, need to repent when we get it wrong. If the Villamor children do not know this about their parents--that they are human and fallible--then this is a good time for them to begin to consider this reality about Mike and Cyndi and about themselves. What a horrible pressure to live under, the pressure to be perfect; or worse--the pride of believing that you are perfect, which will lead to a terrible fall, even perhaps to destruction. May God spare the children from these two calamities! These--the burden of perfection and the consequences of pride--are far worse than any disillusionment they might be going through or may go through in relationship to their parents.
I'm so glad to hear that all is well with you and your family, Miki. I hope you all had a wonderful Easter celebration. (I know you're good at making things special and fun for everyone.) :)
PS: As has been noted earlier in this thread, many of us conceal our identities, not because we are afraid, but because we want our ideas to be looked at for what they are, not for from whom they came. Does that make any sense? There are other considerations, as well, such as the fact that many of us still have friends involved in TP whom we love and hope not to alienate from our lives.
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As you have all noticed, I am using my name. I guess for me, I have nothing to hide and I'm not afraid of TPC anymore. They are not any bigger or better than our God. My best friend and sister in christ left in 2000. Our family left in 2004 or 2005. As I look back, I praise God for one of the most difficult decisions I had to make. "Move my family out of TPC". My husband and children were against it. We ran into many obstacles. Looking at it now, I KNOW that I KNOW it was the hand of God moving us.
Many have been hurt, wounded or just plain don't agree with the biblical principals of TPC. Been there, done that. However, what I am concerned about are the Villamor children. There's a lot said on this blog that is "Truth" but can also hurt the children the most. They may be just as confused and mixed up as we all are or were at one time or another.
I believe that if we speak out of bitterness then it's harmful and stirs the pot for the enemy. However, if "Truth" is spoken.... it needs to be "SPOKEN".
For our family, we've forgiven, forgiven ourselves and are moving on. Not that easy after 4 years, but with God on our side and walking before us and beside us.... We're OK!! My friend Weezie said, "OK is good!". How blessed are we all? BLESSED INDEED!!