Narcissists have an instinct for detecting who has power and is worth cultivating.
They are always nice to people who have what they want - or can take away what the narcissist wants. .
A list of people the narcissists are nice to:
* Anyone with money, useful social connections, ties to the media, politics
* Anyone who is famous and who can give the narcissist credibility
* Narsos will go out of their way to woo and cultivate attorneys, lawyers, physicians, anyone who will make his or her organization look good. Recruits with these backgrounds will get flattery from the narso and the narso will not
usually abuse them as horribly as lower level members. As a result, these privileged members will, quite often refuse to believe any reports of abuse - after all the narso was so wonderful to them
* Prospective recruits. The prospective recruit is a new conquest. Narcissists love making new conquests.
* Journalists who are potential sources of negative publicity. Narsos can charm the unwary journalist -- unless the journalist takes care to do plenty of fact checking.
* Police and other authority figures
* Persons who are on the point of leaving. Narcissists can sense when someone
is getting bored with them, getting disgusted. Narcissists need to control everything and hate it when someone leaves on his or her own initiative. Narcissists want to be the one who reject you and want you to feel as confused as possible when kicked out. So a narso will pick up on anyone who is about to leave, will court the person, make that person feel valued and special and grateful. Then, when the mark is filled with joy and gratitude and newly
devoted to the group, the narso cult leader will suddenly boot them out with no explanation, leaving the person shattered.
I call this strategic rejection.