READING BETWEEN THE LIES
The Globe and Mail reported;Moreover, despite their protracted opposition to the transplant, Mr. Falkingham's mother and stepfather now seem to have shifted position.
"They've turned out to be quite supportive," Ms. Sabloff said. "[Ms. Croft] sent us both a note saying it was a good thing he did and that she's looking forward to a good, ongoing relationship."
That would represent a considerable change of feeling.
Against the wishes of their son, the couple had flown to Cyprus and strenuously tried to prevent the surgery from going ahead, according to Mr. McKay.
What things did Kate do strenuously Dave? And how do you explain your assertion regarding what you believed she was doing when the facts suggest the opposite?Dave tries to explain:To explain the contradiction about Kate, it seems that she has actually come around to accepting that Ash is not brainwashed, that he does have a mind of his own, and that, despite our differences in beliefs, we in the Jesus Christians are not coercing him into doing this. That is a huge victory, and we are grateful for that.
She did, however, still go to Cyprus against Ash's will, and make certain threats to the doctor if he did not use his influence to force Ash to see her before the operation. That's when the surgeon said to Ash that he would not do the operation unless he allowed Kate the opportunity to come into the room and talk to him with the surgeon present.
Again.... according to Mr. McKay! How does he know that Kate made certain "threats"? It sounds like it was the SURGEON who said he would not operate unless Ash allowed his mother into the room. Dave reported to the Courier Mail:“Head surgeon George Kyriakides felt that he should at least explain the procedures to the mother, whom he felt must be worrying needlessly about her son's safety. So he insisted on phoning Kate Croft,” Mr McKay said.
Mrs Croft then booked the next flight to Cyprus... After speaking with the surgeon, Mrs Croft was allowed to see her son.
Could it be that the surgeon who insisted on contacting Kate and including her in what he was about to do to her son, also requested that she attend, and HE was the one who made it a condition that Ash speak to his mother before HE operated? This operation was occurring in a country where family bonds mean something and perhaps HE needed to be sure that a reasonable effort had been made to include her in the process before he would proceed, especially when a previous medical authority had ruled against making the same operation.
Think about it. The Surgeon contacted his mother. She, and her husband, at great personal expense immediately fly to Cypress, where (if the surgeon had not asked them to come) had no reasonable expectation to see their son who had made it clear he did not want to see them. Ash should be grateful that his mother and step-father's active support allowed the operation to proceed without any complication.
And yet Dave, through the Courier Mail continues to project negative spin upon their efforts...“Kate came in with the film crew's camera rolling and tearfully hugged Ash and said how proud she was of him,” Mr McKay said.
So... despite the claim that Kate was threatening the surgeon and making strenuous efforts to prevent the operation, when she is allowed to see her son she hugs him and tells him she is proud of him! But Dave, the master of seeing the best in himself and the worst in everyone else tries to make something cynical out of that.
Who's film crew was involved, Dave? Who invited them to Cyprus to film the operation? If you are going to claim that Ash's mother needed to "threaten" the surgeon to see Ash, how did a film crew intrude on Ash's room?
The Globe and Mail reported; "The Crofts could not be reached for comment..." That doesn't sound like the actions of people seeking the limelight. But we know who has been milking the publicity behind every organ that his followers donate. Curiously, Dave McKay is quoted in EVERY media report on the issue, so it is the height of hypocrisy to suggest to the world that Ash's mother is exploiting media attention here.
Dave concludes on his forum;Old habits die slowly, and so Kate is still inclined to force herself onto Ash.
That hug and words of encouragement will scar him for life!Nevertheless, with the transplant behind him, and Kate accepting that he is not brainwashed, we are hopeful that things will improve dramatically in their relationship... back to something closer to what it was like during his first three and a half years in the community, when he came and went freely at her house, and both sides respected their differences.
Lets hope it does, and Ash consents to them visiting him in the hospital now that he knows they supported his decision once they were satisfied he wasn't just conforming with the peer pressure of a group where the majority do as he has.
The trouble is experience has proven that Dave's habit of opposing anyone who does not endorse his authority is unlikely to change. But Dave, here is your chance to prove us wrong and make the same effort that Kate and Nick have to reverse their position in reversing your efforts at driving wedges between them.
Edited 1 time(s). Last edit at 03/24/2008 11:40AM by apostate.