Re: YMBBA Ministries
Date: March 11, 2015 04:01AM
I saw the link to "libertyforcaptives.com" in this thread and liked some of the articles I read there.
I especially liked this list of ways to tell the difference between gossip and criticism:
8 Ways to Tell the Difference between Gossip and Criticism
1.) Motive Toward the Other
Gossip’s motive is destructive and malicious: it wants to bring down another person in order to destroy them or make them look worse than they are.
Criticism wants to make someone or something better; it is based on love which always protects, thus it does not unnecessarily expose another person for the sake of sensationalism, but it also does not cover up for a leader when that leader’s actions are hurting other people.
2.) Motive Toward Yourself
Gossip’s motive is to build yourself up as superior to the other, and as a source of information which makes you feel powerful and special.
Criticism comes from a humble heart which is unafraid to stand up for what is right, even if it hurts.
Gossip is based on cowardice and falsehood.
Criticism is based on courage and truth.
Gossip often states falsehood as fact. Gossip often twists the truth to make it seem worse than it is.
Criticism fact-checks and refuses to use unsubstantiated information. Criticism understands that people and situations are rarely black and white. It refuses to twist facts to better fit its own agenda.
A gossip (the person who gossips) lacks self-control, is undignified, tends toward idleness, combines gossip with slander, is unconcerned about truth, betrays secrets, promotes rumors as facts, is prone to sensationalism, is jealous, lacks contentment; he or she is quarrelsome, stubborn, and rebellious. In other words, a person who gossips tends to have a constellation of negative qualities which brands him or her as untrustworthy and destructive.
A critic, on the other hand, has a reputable character which is full of the fruit of the Spirit.
via superhua, Creative Commons
Gossip uses inappropriate mediums to convey genuinely private information. It hijacks an audience and splashes information held in confidence far and wide using social media, print, radio, or television.
Criticism understands the power of media and uses it only when appropriate. The more private the matter, the more private the medium; the more public a matter, the more public the medium. Crucially, a critic understands the difference between a public figure and a public matter. Public figures deserve privacy when a matter does not impact their public ministry. But if the matter does impact their public ministry, it may be shared with all those affected. Such sharing is not gossip, it is proportional. Such is the parity of the platform, where teachers enjoy additional prestige and also additional accountability.
Gossips ignore protocols, whether biblical or other, and widely share private information without following biblical due process.
Critics, on the other hand, confront the offending person (if safe to do so) privately (this could include correspondence, phone calls, etc.), then with another trustworthy person, and then with the church. As noted above, a critic shares negative information about another person only insofar as that particular information impacts other people, in other words, as far as another person’s platform and influence warrants.
Gossip is destructive: it impoverishes the people who listen to it and undermines the people it describes.
Criticism, on the other hand, empowers those who listen to it and either corrects errant leaders by keeping them accountable to biblical standards, or removes them in order to strengthen the organization they previously led and protect the people they were supposed to serve.