Re: Jack Hickman
Date: March 04, 2011 06:43AM
I have just found this forum and am in the process of reading through it. I was up until 3 am last night as it was hard to stop. I was a member of this group from 1973 until the infamous meeting in January of 1982. I was adopted into the family and while, not inner circle, I had close friends who were elders or held other "higher up" positions. My daughter attended Ganon (sp?), the pre-school in East Meadow and would have started at Bet El that fall. Although it's more than 25 years ago, I remember those last days and the recovery afterward quite clearly. It was a painful time as I waited to see what my close friends and even my husband would decide to do. Are you "in" or "out" was a familiar question asked. Many of my close friends eventually made the decision to leave. Of those that stayed, I've no contact over the years outside of one person very briefly.
Reading these posts, I have to admit that I've been short sighted about the continued impact of the Community on the people still involved and their children. I was in many ways happy to just be done with it and focus on the positive things it brought to life, such as life long friendships and a stability in life that I don't know that I would have found for myself.
I now find myself extremely concerned for the children of these people who I once knew so well. While being open and honest about my past membership in a cult, with my children, friends and acquaintances, I have not considered the impact on the next generation. I am so sorry for your pain and confusion. I am not sure exactly what I can offer that would be helpful, but if any of you have any ideas, I offer my assistance.
My first instinct is to say, if anyone needs assistance in leaving or finding a place to live, I am willing to provide that. I don't have a lot of financial resources, but know others that might be willing to help with whatever is needed past that. Counseling has been very helpful to me to process my emotions and make realistic decisions, so anyone knows how that could be facilitated, again I would do what I can.