Reepicheep Wrote:
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> Here is an article that I believe would be helpful
> to many people on this forum. The title is "Forget
> About Forgiving Your Narcissist/Psychopath: Here's
> Why ".
>
> Here's a sneak peek of the subtitles:
>
> You need to move on
> You get more drained by the second
> It's time for you to come first
> You need to stop feeling bad for seeking justice
> Toxic people get off scot-free
> Forgiving yourself should be the first priority
> Know you’re not stupid for getting involved
> Not forgetting doesn’t make you a bad person
> You need to heal
>
> [
www.perpetuaneo.com]
Good stuff. #5 is especially pertinent:
5. Toxic people get off scot-free
My friend Shannon Thomas (Licensed Clinical Social Worker), an expert in spiritual abuse, explains that when victims release the abuser too soon from accountability, the entire healing process is derailed.
She says, “When the topic of forgiveness arises, many emotions are triggered for survivors of abuse. This is especially true within a religious or spiritual setting. The traditional definition of forgiveness involves telling the abuser he or she is
released from the responsibility for the damage they have caused. This action is absolutely not helpful within an abusive environment.
Toxic people must hold and address the responsibility for their actions.”