It sounds bad. I'm in something similar with my sister. After going through an lgat she treated me badly during one of the worst times in my life. I took a couple years of abuse before coming to my senses and ending the relationship. I warned her that it was coming and I told her why, but it did not matter to her. She had a new "family" and new "friends" in the lgat. And she was very busy recruiting.
Now, several years later, she misses me and wants me back. I have told her of my concerns and fears of reconciling. She knows how badly I was hurt by her during her involvement with the lgat. I have tried and tried and tried, all in vain, to tell her what I've learned about lgats (incidentally, *I* am the one who recruited her into it!!!). She disputes everything I say, nevermind that she does so from a position of TOTAL IGNORANCE about psychological manipulation. She now says that I am being mind controlled by this board! She twists everything back around, just like she did in the lgat.
Bottom line, I don't feel safe with her and don't know when/if I will - unless she faces what the lgat did to her and to our relationship. As I read about your situation I thought about your wife entering into exit counseling. I made that suggestion to my sister, telling her it's the only way I would consider reconciliation. She's wary of deprogramming (I sugggested Steve Hassan, and I also suggested just hearing him out at first re psychological persuasion; she said he's biased and will see mind control where it's not), but wasn't wary of the lgat con artists!! I told her that if she is not programmed, which she is sure she is not, then there is nothing to fear in talking to Steve.
Anyway, that's my thought. If your wife is truly intent on reuniting with you, what if you agreed to consider it [i:a7b1091a5a]on the condition that she undergo deprogramming[/i:a7b1091a5a]? Have you told her that she's a very different person? Does she seem to have ANY awareness of it? That's what scares me about my sister, she denies that she was changed by the lgat.
All the best to you,
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Steve Hassan's cult intervention methodology has historically raised concerns since its inception. The book "Recovery from Cults" (W.W. Norton & Co. pp. 174-175) edited by Dr. Michael Langone states the following:
"Calling his approach 'strategic intervention [sic] therapy,' Hassan (1988) stresses that, although he too tries to communicate a body of information to cultists and to help them think independently, he also does formal counseling. As with many humanistic counseling approaches, Hassan’s runs the risk of imposing clarity, however subtly, on the framework’s foundational ambiguity and thereby manipulating the client."
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