army-of-me wrote:
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What are some of the nicknames from your summit groups? Does this nickname replace the participants real name for a time? Rs and Sane, did they do this at InQuest and Klemmer, too?
Hi army,
Yes, they also used these "bad name-tags" at Inquest. They were given to us on the first day, after a process where we each stood on a platform (mini-stage) and told the stories of the first seven years of our lives, and what works / doesn't work for us now. The types of names we were given were similar to those already mentioned, e.g.
Missing In Action
Damaged Goods
Impotent
Premature Ejaculator
Smile and Spread 'em
Trailer Trash
For homework we had to write something on what we felt about our name-tags, then stand on the platform and read that out to the group, and get feedback from the trainers and assistants on whatever we felt about it.
We wore the bad name-tags for three days running. We were allowed to take them off after we got our contracts, right at the end of the third day. There was a process for each person to stand and write on a chart a statement (contract) to live by for the rest of our lives, something about ourselves, for example:
I Am A Woman
I Am Flying
I Am Alive
I Have A Voice
I Am Beautiful
The contract had to be approved by the trainers (we were prompted by the trainers towards getting the right thing, with a lot of abuse along the way - both physical and verbal). Once each person got their contract they went into shock (still don't understand the physics / science of how that happens - if anyone knows please explain) and went weak, and were picked up by the assistants in a "cradle" and rocked gently while music played. I think that's called the cradling process.
At the end of that process we were allowed to take our bad name-tags off. The idea seemed to be that the contract replaced the bad name-tag and that the bad name-tag was our old, lower or damaged self while the contract was for our new, higher, perfect self. At least that's the impression I got.
I don't recall any specific feelings about the name-tags, other than shame during the process of trying to say what mine meant to me. I guess shame in general, and huge relief when we were allowed to remove them.
Afterwards people who were in my group would use my bad name-tag as a reminder; if they didn't approve of something I was saying or doing (mostly when I questioned or criticized quest or the trainers), they would say "Now you're being (bad name-tag) again... what happened to (my contract)." and that was pretty effective at silencing any questioning... not so much because it meant a huge amount to me, but because it was a good conversation stopper, something I didn't know how to get around in a conversation.
I think another motive for the name tags (other than general shaming) was to make it difficult for us to communicate with each other. Its not easy trying to have a conversation with someone who has one of those things written in bold across their chests, especially the cruder ones.
Anyhow - why do you ask army? Just curious? What do you think of why this was done and what effect it would have?
Oh - to answer your other question - we were not addressed by the bad name-tag, we were also all assigned numbers (1 - 16) and (I think) we were addressed by our numbers most of the time. My memory is a bit foggy about this, I could be wrong but I don't remember being called by my own name at any point, so I'm assuming they addressed the number...urrmm... not sure though. But the numbers were definitely used to arrange and organise us, e.g. line up starting at number 1, etc. and I wasn't called by my own name.
They also made out that the numbers we "chose" (not really chosen, assigned by the trainers) had some or other mystical meaning, which I never figured out.
Were people assigned numbers at Impact?