Hi leftcoast,
It's hard for the cat to leave the mouse alone, itsn't it? I'm sure you see that you're sort of playing with her here by continuing to challenge her messages to you. But, I understand, I've done it too. Sort of like the train wreck comment you made before. If it really bugs you, you can make this stop -- anytime you choose to.
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I wish you could truly see how amazing my life has become since I did Landmark Education. I have things in my life right now that I would never have if I had not done Landmark Education.
Post hoc analysis at work here. She doesn't really [b:b0121188f8]know [/b:b0121188f8]this, but she certainly [b:b0121188f8]believes [/b:b0121188f8]it. Belief is a powerful thing.
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You have no idea how much it hurts me to know that the person who was my best friend, can't see how amazing my life is. Can't see how much I love my life. And can't be fucking happy for me. My life is amazing and taking off, and everyday it's getting better. That's what I want for your life too. And you want to know the best part? You do NOT have to do Landmark Education to have it! I hated listening to you complain...You're life is so much more than that. You are so lucky to have the things in your life that you have, I wish you would have (and would) share them with me. You having amazing things is not going to make me upset or jealous; I'd be happy to know that your life is incredible.
Can see how brain-pithed she is, though. Not much to say here except :roll: . "You do NOT have to do Landmark Education to have it! " -- doesn't this sort of contradict what was said above? Outside of this statement, how many of us have heard the same thing? Lots I bet.
These exchanges are fun now, but you will, if you are like me, tire of them eventually. There is only so much of this blather a person can take. Where I'm at is that I still see my Lekkie friend, and she shares her stuff, I say "thank you for sharing" and that's that. I don't discuss or debate because that just goes nowhere. Once in a great while I'll plant a seed of doubt, but I don't make a big deal about it. The lines of communication are open, and some day, MAYBE, she'll want to hear, but I'm not betting on it. If it does happen though, then she has someone to go to. In the mean time, I just focus on doing things we can enjoy together, and tuning out the Lekkie speak.
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What am I supposed to do now?
You say you want out of this, but your actions say you want to stay in this, at least for now. That tension is somewhat natural -- the Lekkie speak is so intolerable that it makes even the most devoted friend want to run. I think you really need to choose one, however. That's what I think you need to do now. If you want to stay in, then let her call, and but don't get into a discussion. Just thank her for her viewpoints and go on to something else. The discussion is the bait. Stay off that hook. It doesn't help anyway -- you speak different languages now, and the understanding of language is no longer there.
This is what LGATs do to people and relationships.
Sad.
-lightwolf