[b:2c9e4a73c7]Hope[/b:2c9e4a73c7], I bailed out of my marriage for many reasons; the main reason, however, was that we were not compatible in the first place. We blended together like water and oil. The marriage should have never happened. I got cold feet right before the marriage, red flags, etc. but chose to ignore those feelings. It wasn't the thing to be doing but I had just graduated from college and was afraid to live alone (I hadn't learned how to be independent). I was needy and he was attracted to that, unfortunately. Marrying him was a selfish move. [i:2c9e4a73c7](Also, briefly... we were both raised by over-bearing fathers who did not encourage independence. Our marriage began like that of our parents... man issues the orders and woman follows them without argument. That's what I thought marriage was supposed to be like and that aspect only heightened our incompatibility.)[/i:2c9e4a73c7]
My ex-husband is delighted with life right now and I am so glad that he is happy. His happiness has made it easier for me to move on. In fact, he is happier right now than he ever was when we were married! He gushes with joy these days.
I am now in a healthy relationship (with my boyfriend of two years) which feels right and good, and I have discovered what is important to me. What I should have done was discover what was/is important to me [u:2c9e4a73c7]before[/u:2c9e4a73c7] getting married.... Hope, I am happy inside and out [i:2c9e4a73c7]with me[/i:2c9e4a73c7]! I have finally learned how to love myself.
And yeah, I was blaming him way back when. I think one of the reasons he's happy and accepting of our new relationship now is because I've had the courage to take responsibility for my shortcomings, have acknowledged the mess I created, and I've placed the blame when it belongs.
[b:2c9e4a73c7]Acid Reindeer[/b:2c9e4a73c7],
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Harvard University has affiliated itself with a secure facility, McLean, where I and others get confined, tortured (in the 1980's and for all I know, now, that includes electroshock, which causes brain injury) without any outcry at all.
Why would Harvard University afficiate itself with McLean? Why did you get confined and tortured? In response to your flip statement
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and how would you know?
I wouldn't know. I just trust my gut feelings and when I'm around someone who scares me my natural instinct is to get away. Fortunately, I've never been in a situation where getting away wasn't an option.