The problems for many monks and nuns in NKT are very much induced by the absence of the Vinaya and their rituals. Even to celebrate the mixing of lay and ordained (or monks and nuns/wemen or nuns and lay men/monks) as a type of 21st Century accomplishment is quite strange from a spiritual point of view because the mixing of lay and monastic life does not support the lifestyle of a monk or nun, it leads monastic life at risk.Quote
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“As long as the complete Vinaya, the supreme treasure, abides, the Lamp of Dharma shall abide.”
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(Lam Rim Chen Mo, p 75ff, Snow Lion Publications)
The defining characteristics of the student who relies upon the teacher
Aryadeva states in his Four Hundred Stanzas (Catuh-sataka):
"It is said that one who is non-partisan, intelligent, and diligent
Is a vessel for listening to the teachings.
The good qualities of the instructor do not appear otherwise
Nor do those of fellow listeners."
Aryadeva says that one who is endowed with the three qualities is suitable to listen to the teachings. He also says that if you have all these qualities, the good qualities of one who instructs you in the teachings will appear as good qualities, not as faults. In addition, he says that to such a fully qualified person the good qualities of fellow listeners will also appear as good qualities and not as faults.
It is stated in Candrakirti's commentary that if you, the listener, do not have all these defining characteristics of a suitable recipient of the teachings, then the influence of your own faults will cause even an extremely pure teacher who instructs you in the teachings to appear to have faults. Furthermore, you will consider the faults of the one who explains the teachings to be good qualities. Therefore, although you might find a teacher who has all the defining characteristics, it may be difficult to recognize their presence.
Thus, it is necessary for the disciple to have these three characteristics in their entirety in order to recognize that the teacher has all the defining characteristics and in order then to rely on that teacher.
With respect to these three characteristics, "nonpartisan" means not to take sides. If you are partisan, you will be obstructed by your bias and will not recognize good qualities. Because of this, you will not discover the meaning of good teachings. As Bhavaviveka states in his Heart of the Middle Way (Madhyamaka-hrdaya):
"Through taking sides the mind is distressed, Whereby you will never know peace."
"Taking sides" is to have attachment for your own religious system and hostility toward others'. Look for it in your own mind and then discard it, for it says in the Bodhisattva Vows of Liberation (Bodhi-sattva-pratimoksa):
"After giving up your own assertions, respect and abide in the texts of the abbot and master."
Question: Is just that one characteristic enough?
Reply: Though non-partisan, if you do not have the mental force to distinguish between correct paths of good explanation and counterfeit paths of false explanation, you are not fit to listen to the teachings. Therefore, you must have the intelligence that understands both of these. By this account you will give up what is unproductive, and then adopt what is productive.
Question: Are just these two enough?
Reply: Though having both of these, if, like a drawing of a person who is listening to the teachings, you are inactive, you are not fit to listen to the teachings. Therefore, you must have great diligence. Candrakirti's commentary says "After adding the three qualities of the student to the two qualities of being focused and having respect for the teaching and its instructor, there are a total of five qualities."
Then, these five qualities can be reduced to four:
(1) striving very diligently at the teaching,
(2) focusing the mind well when listening to the teaching,
(3) having great respect for the teaching and its instructor, and
(4) discarding bad explanations and retaining good explanations.
Having intelligence is the favourable condition that gives rise to these. Being non-partisan gets rid of the unfavourable condition of taking sides.
Investigate whether these attributes that make you suitable to be led by a guru are complete; if they are complete, cultivate delight. If they are incomplete, you must make an effort to obtain the causes that will complete them before your next life. Therefore, know these qualities of a listener. If you do not know their defining characteristics, you will not engage in an investigation to see whether they are complete, and will thereby ruin your great purpose.
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I'm just looking for a sounding board as I start to remove myself from this and get back into genuine mainstream Buddhism.
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Thanks Corboy and Tenzin Peljor,
I'm starting right back at the beginning with the Dhammapada.
After my experiences I feel like a fraud though and wonder if I'd be welcome at a mainstream centre even though I've never practiced Shugden. I just ignored it and got on with the Chenrezig and Manjushri instead!
Kind thoughts to you all!
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Tibetan Dhammapada
Intimate Friends
1
Wise ones, do not befriend
The faithless, who are mean
And slanderous and cause schism.
Don't take bad people as your companions.
2
Wise ones, be intimate
With the faithful who speak gently,
Are ethical and do much listening.
Take the best as companions.
3
Do not devote yourself
To bad companions and wicked beings.
Devote yourself to holy people,
And to spiritual friends.
4
By devotion to people like that
You will do goodness, not wrong.
5
By devotion to faithful and wise people
Who have heard much and pondered many things,
By heeding their fine words, even from afar,
Their special qualities are attained here.
6
Since those devoted to inferiors degenerate,
Those to equals mark time,
And those to great ones attain sanctity,
Be devoted to those great ones.
7
By devotion to ethical,
Calm, and most knowledgeable great beings,
One attains to a greatness
Greater even than the great.
8
Just as the clean kusha grass
That wraps a rotten fish
Will also start to rot,
So too will those devoted to an evil person.
9
Just as a leaf folded
To contain an incense offering
Also becomes sweet,
So too will those devoted to the virtuous.
10
When one does no wrong yet
Is devoted to evil people,
One will still be abused,
For others suppose that this one too is bad.
11
The devotee acquires the same faults
As the person not worthy of devotion,
Like an untainted arrow smeared
With the poison of a tainted sheath.
12
Steadfast ones who fear the taint of faults,
Do not befriend bad people.
By close reliance and devotion
To one's companion,
Soon one becomes just like
The object of one's devotion.
13
Therefore, knowing that one's devotion
Is like the casing of the fruit,
The wise devote themselves to holy,
Not to unholy people,
And drawn along the monk's path
They find the end of misery.
14
Just as a spoon cannot taste the sauce,
Infantile ones do not understand
The doctrine, even after
A lifetime of devotion to the wise.
15
Just as the tongue can taste the sauce.
Those with wisdom can understand
The entire doctrine, after just
A brief attendance on the wise.
16
Because infantile ones lack eyes to see,
Though they devote their lifetimes
To the wise, they never
Understand the entire doctrine.
Those with wisdom fully understand
The entire doctrine after just
A brief attendance on the wise.
They have eyes to see.
17
Though they devote their lifetimes
To wise beings, infantile ones
Do not understand the doctrine
Of the Buddha in its entirety.
Those with wisdom understand
The doctrine of the Buddha
In its entirety after just
A brief attendance on the wise.
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Even just one meaningful line
Sets the wise ones to their task,
But all the teaching that the Buddhas gave
Won't set infantile ones to work.
19
The intelligent will understand
A hundred lines from one,
But for the infantile beings
A thousand lines do not suffice for one.
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[If one must chose between them],
Better the wise even if unfriendly.
No infant is suited to be a friend.
Sentient beings intimate with
The infant-like are led to hell.
21
Wise persons are those who know
Infantile ones for what they are:
'Infantile ones' are those
Who take infants to be the wise.
22
The censure of the wise
Is far preferable
To the eulogy or praise
Of the infant.
23
Devotion to infants brings misery.
Since they are like one's foe,
It is best to never see or hear
Or have devotion for such people.
24
Like meeting friends, devotion to
The steadfast causes happiness.
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Therefore, like the revolving stars and moon,
Devote yourself to the steadfast, moral ones
Who have heard much, who draw on what is best -
The kind, the pure, the best superior ones.
(taken from Gareth Sparham's translation Wisdom Publications)
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My big admission is that I am presently an ordained person. I don't want to undo my vows but I feel like a fraud, even though I have no problems keeping them. I live alone in a remote area away from worldly life and find it so easy to practice in the silence here.
Even though I might not be seen as a properly ordained person, I read my vows daily and keep to them. The Dharma centres are all half a day's travel away for me so I've found it easy to distance myself from the manipulation.