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SteveLpool
His affairs with his students aren’t mere hearsay. I never actually witnessed Nydahl having sex with one of his students so of course I can never be 100% sure that the stories are true. Enough people commented on his affairs and their apparent lack of an effect on his wife to suggest that there is some truth in the rumours. I did see him with his tongue down a young lady’s throat in Newcastle, who was/is a student of Ole’s. I think that this act alone is an abuse of his position let alone the stories of him having had sex with a number of his students. Again I question the ethics of a man who feels the need to sleep with students, students often old enough to be his grand-daughters. The leaders of the centre I attended never kept his affairs secret and in an odd way actually seemed to offer the information up as a way of demonstrating how “liberated” he is.
While it is possible to judge from a moral (and external) perspective, even though you may feel it is an abuse, clearly most DWB members and Ole himself have found a way to rationalise this behaviour.
What I find interesting is their own discourse concerning this. On the one hand Ole says his sexual exploits are to be viewed as separate from his role as "lama" but then we get this "nudge, nudge, wink, wink" routine in the middle of a dharma talk. His "sex appeal" seems mostly based on his status, and as you point out, it has become woven into the "Ole Nydahl myth" which he himself does everything to promote.
This to me is typical of DWB behaviour - when something suits them they justify it with a certain discourse, but when it doesn't suit them they suddenly switch. Their whole "philosophy" is riddled with inconsistencies which results in the personal tastes of a few dictating what is acceptable or not.
I myself have witnessed one high ranking member castigating someone for being drunk and then the very next day being so drunk themselves that they could hardly stand. I have also seen members help themselves to other peoples' property and then telling them to let go of their attachment, but a week later when they are on the receiving end, they have made the most fuss and started quoting dharma about not taking what is not freely given. This is unsurprising behaviour when their "lama" sets this example himself.