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matildaHere is an extract fro Jon Ronson's article Blood Sacrifice.
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I email Dave. I say that I think Casey should tell his mother. Dave's response is this: "Although he's nearly 24 years old, and not a child, I can understand that it sounds cowardly, and maybe inconsiderate, not to tell her ahead of time. However, I'm the LEADER of this sinister little cult, and I am not telling relatives because they reacted so strongly when I first mentioned it. It's just a nuisance when people start raving and treating you like you've lost your mind. If it would make YOU feel better, I think he would probably agree to telling her. It's only three weeks now until he donates, so it'll have to be pretty soon. I personally would feel better if she DID know, so it won't be so much of a shock when she finds out afterwards, as long as she does not try to make problems with the hospital where the transplant is taking place. See, in our case, she would only need to phone and say he's part of a religious 'cult' - the magic C word - and the operation would probably be off."
Hi Matilda, I've spent some time pondering on this article, and it has been very helpful, thanks. No wonder we were given no word of Ash's current schedule if Dave imagines we could interfere with that.
If Dave had bothered to consider our track record over the last 3 and a half years instead of trying to control us like some pawns in his chess game, he would have noticed we have never interferred with Ashwyn's right to make his own mistakes, and never posed any threat to him. We would have regretted it if we had, because in this time Ash has achieved a great deal that has made us really proud of him.
I am quite confused tho, by the conflicting goals Dave expressed to Jon elsewhere of wanting to be known as a radical cult leader at the same time as apparently seeking to reject and suppress use of the word here.
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A few days later, Casey decides to test the water with a chatty email to his mother. "It was full of mundane things," he tells me. "Small talk. How are her days going? And I just mentioned in the email that I'm thinking of donating a kidney. I haven't heard anything yet."
"How do you think she'll respond?" I ask.
"She may have the impression that I'm being coerced," he says.
"Does she feel that way about the Jesus Christians, anyway?" I ask.
"She does feel conflicted by our unity."
"That you're a live-in group?"
"That we hold ourselves accountable to each other. We make group decisions. It isn't the kind of personal freedom she feels I should have, I guess."
Casey puts this really well - I am very much in the same place as his mother on this issue of personal freedom.