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cherenuff1
I understand about the hurt feelings and why they would feel hurt, betrayed, etc. Remember...I was asked to leave and after finding the ex-members, I myself, wanted to think of Trinity as a cult. I, myself, put Ole as a cult leader. I mean, how DARE they ask me to leave when all I did was pretend to be pregnant and told others that I had an abortion.The only difference is that after moving to Kansas and I wasn't around the EX-members, I lost my hate, anger, hurt and shame.
Why talk and dwell about things that have happened YEARS ago. The difference now between me and some others that left is that I chose to let go of my anger. I don't direct this at you since it seems that you are indeed happy and have found a spiritual peace. I like you guys...I've always liked you guys. I don't like your views on things but then again, that would make life boring if everyone agreed. LOl
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cherenuff1
I understand about the hurt feelings and why they would feel hurt, betrayed, etc. Remember...I was asked to leave and after finding the ex-members, I myself, wanted to think of Trinity as a cult. I, myself, put Ole as a cult leader. I mean, how DARE they ask me to leave when all I did was pretend to be pregnant and told others that I had an abortion.The only difference is that after moving to Kansas and I wasn't around the EX-members, I lost my hate, anger, hurt and shame.
Why talk and dwell about things that have happened YEARS ago. The difference now between me and some others that left is that I chose to let go of my anger. I don't direct this at you since it seems that you are indeed happy and have found a spiritual peace. I like you guys...I've always liked you guys. I don't like your views on things but then again, that would make life boring if everyone agreed. LOl
Not sure you can extrapolate your experience to everyone else's, though. People left for many other reasons besides the ones you left for. It is true that you deserved a consequence for lying, but not everyone who left had lied to the group. In at least one case I know of, it was because they discovered Ole had lied to them. You may have had good reasons to return and ask for forgiveness from everyone at Trinity, but there are cases where the asking for amends needs to run in the other direction.
Wendy and I have, indeed, found a good spiritual home that suits us well. We are at peace, and for what it is worth, I have always liked you, too. But if we can't talk about Trinity, politics, sex, or football, what's left?
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counselor47
Send me a private message with your email on it and I will send you mine and we can do some of our personal catching up off of this forum. Your statement, "...come to Bible Study, let him know how you feel, get it out and hang out with the rest of us..." is just not going to work for some people. For one thing, for most of the former members that would not feel like a safe thing to do. For another, that minimizes how badly some people have been hurt.
As I said earlier in this thread, Wendy and I are among the [i:ec4d74fcdb]least[/i:ec4d74fcdb] angry of the former members. Everyone focuses on us because we spoke out, but we are not bitter. I would like nothing more than to find some way for everyone to be able to hold hands and sing Kum Ba Yah, but it is not going to happen if it has to be on Trinity's terms. Trinity needs to engage in some honest self-examination and try to understand the ways in which they may have been in the wrong at times. A little bit of practicing what they preach would be in order, here.