Zeuszor, I think that many people who have left different groups feel very strongly about being told what to think. I can understand that.
Of course the reality is, the space between your ears is yours alone; even in situations of extreme cruelty where people may be forced conform( thinking for example prisoners of war in torture type situations) no one can actually take away your right to think whatever you want.
And once you have been through situations of mental coercion, you are much more protected against that kind of thing happening again.
In this situation though, Blackhat is also allowed free expression.If it applies to you, it must also, to be fair apply to her. You post publicly; there is no reason she is not also allowed to do so.
You recently made an appeal for others to stop posting about a certain topic, pointing out that your life is not a soap opera.
And many have not posted about it at all. But sometimes it would be nice if you were willing to at least consider similar feedback. No one is asking you to stop posting factual stuff. But in this case, you may not realize that posting songs about " psycho killers" when there are many JCs people would like to hear from or feel concerned about could be considered deeply hurtful or even cruel. Not a personal attack ,just information on how a post could be perceived. And as you say, you can post whatever you wish.
And DaveJc or other JCs, if you are reading this, it would be a kindness if you would be willing to verify that the JCs that no one has heard from publicly are indeed happy and safe in their new situation. ( No, I am not suggesting that anything bad has happened to them because of the group breaking up, but people living on the street or in war torn countries, can sometimes be in less than great situations..) am just hoping everyone is okay.
Yasmin: you are nice. You have gotten through to me simply by treating me with respect.
It's just that I am very resentful about feeling like I've been scapegoated, turned on by the very people I was trying to help in the first place (and who had at the time asked
me to help, by the way).
Does that make sense to you, Yasmin? I'm really not the horrid person that they make me out to be.
Let's be friends. I am tired of feeling this way and would like to PM you. Please clear your inbox a bit.
Edited 1 time(s). Last edit at 12/01/2010 03:35AM by zeuszor.