AJG? I did ask you what your experiences were of cults earlier? Im just wondering if you dont have any direct experiences of cults, what your particular interest in this thread is?
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Thanx Mod, I agree with what you said. My Mum is a battered wife and I spent all my childhood protecting her. The effect of a cult like KCF is identicle to being a battered wife. When I left KCF i had lost my personality totally .i too became a battered wife. I was disempowered as a person on leaving KCF I was subconsciously looking for security and was attracted to my ex husband for the wrong r
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Welcome Kennelwood, Do you know your name still brings up loads of dark feelings in me lol. Good to see your point of view on here....
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Hi Guys , Rose and Dragon I have howled for ages looking at your postings. lolol we have the same sense of humour. I will not cover up abuses done to me within reason and I agree with Yeti Im not protecting abusers who will continue ruining peoples lives. I have had to face the fact that I was a gossip and a slanderer since 1991 so I think its only fair. John you rolling on the floor would have
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Hi OnlyMe, I was terrified to show any expressions on my face in case Cheryl honed in on me and gave me a bad time...You have to learn to repress your personality to float there. I was like Trina I couldnt supress my personality. But when I left I didnt know who I was. I have heard Terry Waite talk of the disconnected feeling he felt after he came out of prison, it was very weird. Having to tota
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Hi John, So you didnt subscribe to the Holy Rollers Club then :lol: We are all misguided! We are human! Its not a sin to be misguided is it? Its learning from are mistakes and being flexible and teachable makes it acceptable. My life has been a mixture of many mistakes but if someone says to me I have hurt them . I will look at myself and attempt to make ammends. Im not perfect by any stretch
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I also rmember after I had left I came back to visit and I walked in and they had Darlene Zchech up on the screen before the meeting. All of them sat there as if they were hypnotised worshiping her on the screen. They wouldnt talk they thought it was the spiritual thing to do cos Cheryl had authorised it. It was a bizarre form of idolatry and I instantly knew for the first time that it was a cult
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Hi Dragon, I remember Cheryls Holy Rolling experience that was when there was still Gods presence in the church. But I also remember being prayed for by Cheryl and she pushed me forward as she was praying for me so I was slain in the spirit on my face. She said it was Gods way of making me submit because I needed to surrender to him,I know she pushed me.Did anyone else have this happen to them.
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FireFly, Polarbear and onlyme you may find this site a help ... It helped me.. Love, BBC x
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I think youre right Polar I think it is our time... Ive waited 15 years in exile for this...
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I am a very sensitive person and I am aware that in the early days Cheryl handed me over to Satan. As you can imagine I was already broken but I cant describe to you what that was like. But as I got stronger I realised that God was bigger than her. The effect of her turning my best friends against me is massive . Since I have got some of my friends back on this site I feel , released and am heali
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Polar Bear do you remember Cheryl used to feed us that scripture about forgiveness...It was something along the lines of you cant forgive unless you are forgiven by the person who you are resentful towards. I cant be bothered looking it up. If that scripture was true it sounds like I could never be free whilst Cheryl has a grudge against me? What does everyone think?
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I left KCF in 1991 and I am still very suspicious. I dont think we should have been so trusting in the first place to be honest. I think you should always weigh things up . I left a church cos the pastor said newcomers had to fill in application forms to join. Church is a free gift from God just like salvation I will not fill in forms to feel accepted. A coda/alanon 12 step programme helped depro
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Hi Fire, Beyond doubt !Cheryl knows the truth I have confonted her many times. I am just one of many. She is calculating , devious and manipulative. She is determined to hang onto her throne no matter what... But God is bigger than her and it makes me laugh, as I know what is in store for anyone that hurts Gods trusting sheep... She wont win Fire I know that in my heart of hearts. So be comforte
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Hi Fire, I know what you are saying? Forgiveness is hard especially if there is no forgiveness from the other side. You feel like you are caught in a spiritual trap. All you can do is try and kepp your side of the street clean. It has taken since 1991 to forgive them. When I forgave her I wasnt as frightened of her and went back to see her on more than 6 occasions to talk about reconciliation .
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The idea of setting up a site for KCF to view is important... That is why I put the biblical comments up on bad leadership and abuse. Because the way KCF are trained to think is through scriptures. The people on this site have all experienced abuse and are all at different places of recovery. That is why I started another private site for people to share things in confidence... To join you
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Trina, That comment about lesbos and the beatles white album made me and my hubby howl...You have to laugh or otherwise it gets seriously depressing. love, BBC
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Such sweet happy memories dragon of days gone by lol
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YO! dragon!
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Welcome AJG WHATS YOUR STORY?
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Scary Mary lolol pmsl you havnt changed!!!or how about cross mrs moss lolol. Both I bet have implements of toture secreted on their person, just in case!
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I am in touch with the Echo.... So we will see what will come of that?
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Thanks for this site it has saved my life and given me back my old friends!
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Hi Broken, In the earlier years when I first left (1991) I was very fragile for a long time. It has got easier as I have talked about it over the years and as time has elapsed. I have had to accept what happened and realise I had to adopt a whole new way of thinking and a different easier lifestyle. I had to accept also that I would never be the same as I used to be before I had breakdowns(I hav
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How can there be justice for 20yrs of a ruined life? How could there ever be compensation for that? How can a life damaged by post traumatic distress disorder , anxiety and depression because of one woman be reclaimed. How can losing a whole life friends ,family ,successful career be replaced? I thought when I came on this site that it was a recovery site for the abuses I endured. Up untill th
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Hi Tina, Good to hear from you! I did the same also a letter was written to them from my new pastor after I left but nothing happened. I went back so many times. As I approached Cheryl she practically ran from me. I eventually talked to her but she would not have it that they were at fault in any way shape or form! Im not surprised they would not liase with any other local ministers .They ar
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Healthy recovery from spiritual abuse must begin with understanding what has happened and how. A victim usually thinks he is the only one experiencing these problems. Just being able to give a name to the problem is important. There are many books on the subject , that will be helpful in learning about spiritual abuse and recovery. Afterward the abused person must learn the true nature of God&
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As God in human flesh, Jesus had legitimate spiritual authority. But He did not exercise it to gain power for Himself, or to abuse and control others with rules and regulations. He said, "Come unto me all ye that labor and are heavy laden and I will give you rest" (Matt. 11:28). The Greek word for "heavy laden" is phortizo which means here "to overburden with ceremony (or
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Examples of spiritual abuse are found throughout the Bible. God describes (and condemns) the "shepherds of Israel" who feed themselves rather than the flock, who do not heal those who are hurting, or seek to bring back those who were driven away but rather discard them, ruling with force and cruelty (Ezekiel 34:1-10). Jesus reacted with anger against the thievery of the money changers i
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Abusive religions must distinguish themselves from all other religions so they can claim to be distinctive and therefore special to God. This is usually done by majoring on minor issues such as prophecy, carrying biblical law to extremes, or using strange methods of biblical interpretation. The imbalanced spiritual hobby-horse thus produced represents unique knowledge or practices which seem to v
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