Re: Teresa Descilo; MasterTraumatizer or master trauma councillor? www.teresadescilo.com/ex-founder and fired at Trauma Resolution Center in Miami.
Date: May 29, 2020 01:36AM
I have to say I totally agree with you. A while back in the States (Miami), I had several sessions with Teresa Descilo. On the advice of a friend, I went to her for some relationship guidance, as my marriage was going through a rough spot. In hindsight I wish I had trusted my gut instinct. I had a very strange cold feeling around her, but it took me sometime to put my finger, on exactly what it was.
The language she used was professional and she was clearly very knowledgeable about trauma related issues. Yet something just felt off for me. I have seen many therapists throughout my life, so I feel comfortable talking to them. But I never felt comfortable with Teresa. I found her approach and therapeutic style to be very domineering, with very little love or compassion for both myself and especially my husband.
I was seeking therapy to work on my own issues that were contributing to the conflict in my marriage. I was not there to blame my partner, as I knew that was just going to create more pain. However, Teresa kept encouraging me to focus on the negative aspects of my husband, insisting that it was really his inability to listen and his insensitivity that was the root cause of our problems. When I told her that this was not the full story and it did not feel right, she shut me down immediately, saying that it would take time to step out of denial and see the truth of what she was saying.
I felt so diminished and disempowered, I just became silent and felt very unsafe. I started to feel dread around going to see her, and the issues in my marriage became worse as I followed her advice. Interestingly, I started to develop migraines after each session, and felt so stressed all the time. I had sought this woman´s help, yet things were going downhill and fast. My husband noticed this too and eventually he asked me to stop seeing her, as it was clear that it was just creating a lot of division between us. That was a godsend, as it gave me the courage to trust myself. I realized that I had opened myself to a therapist, who in my opinion, is in no way qualified to counsel people.
My personal observation of Teresa as a therapist is that she is quite angry and I´d even; bitter. Especially in relation to men. She seems to have a lot of unresolved personal issues that contaminate the people she works with, as it did with me. She is a very difficult person to express yourself with, especially if she feels challenged by what you are saying. She becomes very reactive and defensive, so for me it never felt safe to be honest with her. In fact in the end, I honestly felt terrified and intimidated around her.