What exactly is safe to do now?
Date: December 19, 2019 09:11AM
I was in two "light cults/cultish groups--one for 3 years and one for 5 years. I lost who I was. I became a robot to their teachings. I could get into it more, but I'm trying to focus on the recovery aspect.
It's been 2 years since I've been part of these groups. I've been working on getting my self back, physically and mentally.
What confuses me is this: What's safe to do? Nothing? Or things in moderation?
1) YOGA - in my recent experience I am learning that yoga is not what it was 20 years ago. I've tried out chanting, kundalini, and one breath work workshop that against the facilitator's wishes I walked out of. These parts of the yoga community were not in my best interest. Too cultish. Also, the popular yoga studios around me seem rather cultish, too. Too much yoga philosophy thrown in, chakras, crystals--just stuff I don't want to be a part of.
2) MEDITATION - I am concerned I'll get too obsessive about it. Should I just avoid it all together, or limit myself? Should I just stick with western teachers like JKZ, or are eastern teachers/apps/podcasts safe?
3) FITNESS - But even that can be cultish. I want to stay away from Cross Fit type groups
4) PEOPLE- I want to get a job where I won't have co-workers trying to bring me to Landmark (saved by Rick Ross's website 15 years ago), Kabbalah, or other cult like groups masquerading as spiritual, religious, self-improvement, personal development, etc.
5) SPIRITUALITY - Is this even possible to do safely, or should I know better and avoid it entirely? Are there any safe authors to read or follow, or do I just donate my books? I see now how ET, BK, and many others are not safe to read and follow. But what about The Dahli Lama, Thich Nhat Hanh, Pema Chodron, Brene Brown, etc.
6) MINDFULNESS - Can I do this safely without it being cult-like?
7) AROMATHERAPY - Can I just put lavender on my pulse points without buying into all the craziness with the MLM schemes?
I want to stay simple and grounded with whatever self-care practices I do. But I'm scared. I don't which ones are safe, which ones to avoid all together, and with the safe ones, how to do them in moderation?