The unresolved issues that are in one's life is what makes people get sucked into and stick with SGI. Guilt is promoted. If you don't focus on others, you are told, your own life will be a disaster. So you focus on others, but focusing on others and neglecting your own life creates problems that aren't being addressed. Then, to remedy the disaster of your life, you are told to focus more on helping others practice. Endless circle.
Exactly...it's just this loop of illogic that members can get sucked into, and then have trouble escaping.
I was always struck by how many leaders had kids with serious issues....flunking out of school, substance abuse, running away. These were leaders who were out nearly every night at meetings, or on home visits. When they were home, they were still doing Soka Gakkai business -- phone calls, paperwork, or chanting for hours. I wondered, "When do you spend time with your kids? Is getting into trouble the only way that they can get you to notice them?"