This article says it better then the old Apostle to the Dogs can say it. I know you can't just punch on the link, just google "WARNING Signs of Spiritual Abuse, Part 2."
Warning Signs of Spiritual Abuse, Part II: Spiritual Life in God
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We must watch for the warning signs that spiritual abuse is occuring. The confrontations ... A healthy church will exude the attitude described in Philippians 2:3-4: