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Waiting until there's proof of harm? Is that what you recommend when hearing of a questionable group run by a cult adherent?
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How much do you wanna bet they'd pass off any feelings of discomfort or harm as being the victim's problem, rather than being cause by their involvement in the Cuddle Party?
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one matter I had not put up, because I had thought of it...
the founder of CuddleParty, has a business right? if he maintains a tense atmosphere where anyone feels threatened, his business will collapse fast.
(ditto if an assault takes place, by the way.)
I think the emphasis on using yes and no tends to indicate that they know that you cannot secondguess the feelings/thoughts of others.
again if the customers leave the event feeling bad or dirty then the events couldn't sustain itself. maybe it can't. for the moment it can.
also, I think I would feel a lot more easy leaving an event for which you paid thirty dollars than a couple hundred. and they must know this.
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the founder of CuddleParty, has a business right? if he maintains a tense atmosphere where anyone feels threatened, his business will collapse fast.
(ditto if an assault takes place, by the way.)
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again if the customers leave the event feeling bad or dirty then the events couldn't sustain itself. maybe it can't. for the moment it can.
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also, I think I would feel a lot more easy leaving an event for which you paid thirty dollars than a couple hundred. and they must know this.
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"questionable" meaning a subjective assessment of questionable. loaded word, that.
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as far as the cult adherent part, let me stress that you do not know either of the founders, one of whom has taken (and, I guess, liked taking) a few Landmark courses.
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"questionable" meaning a subjective assessment of questionable. loaded word, that.
Another argument I hear quite often in defense of LEC.
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We can deduce from the fact that they've created Cuddle Party in the image of LEC's "sexuality" training that they at least completed the Forum...very likely the Advanced Course...and the sexuality training. They liked it enough (or saw dollar signs enough) to repackage parts of it as their own "creation."
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Acid Reindeer
Caligari,
apples and oranges.
by the time the scandals came about est, the company already had a solid existence and a hardcore of dedicated followers.
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by the time the scandals came about est, the company already had a solid existence and a hardcore of dedicated followers.
Cuddle Party has no such solid base.
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and no one subjects them to seventy-two hours (plus, if you count the cost-free introductory events and homework) of thought reform.
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sort of like claiming the three hour introductory meeting counts the same as the first seventy-two hour course.
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the number of journalists who may have attended the parties will have a different perspective than the actual paying customers. the journalists won't have shown up because of their own bias but because they have a story to tell.
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Another argument I hear quite often in defense of LEC.
maybe they have a point.
if you have a critique of Landmark then use some facts, not scare words like questionable.
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why don't you read what it says on the bios on the site, then?
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I do not know what goes on in the Landmark sexuality training so I won't comment on this at all.
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by the time the scandals came about est, the company already had a solid existence and a hardcore of dedicated followers.
Cuddle Party has no such solid base.
I find it amazing that you're still arguing this. You must have a lot invested in defending your experiences in alternate sexual activities.
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While the scandals may have become public after est had an established base, the abuse was going on from the very beginning.
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""I must say I had a blast last Saturday. I see myself growing into a cuddle addict. Is that part of the intention?"
If you read articles about the phenomenon, you'd know that there is indeed a core group of "addicts" who go from party to party.
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No kidding. And this is true of the journalists who wrote about est and the psychologists who attended the Forum. Are you saying their opinions are invalid because they went with intentions different than the usual paying customer?
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if you have a critique of Landmark then use some facts, not scare words like questionable.
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"His mission is to teach men and women how to create safe space for themselves and one another, in order to be more fully self-expressed, sexually self-expressed, intimate, related and playful."
This sounds almost word-for-word like the LEC website.
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I do not know what goes on in the Landmark sexuality training so I won't comment on this at all.
But you've been commenting on it all along.
I only know (or remember) one thing supposedly taught in the est sexuality training.
leader making a copulation gesture with his or her fingers and saying, "sex is just bodies, nothing but fucking" or words to that effect.
I think I read this on alt.fan.landmark. more than this I do not know.
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the topic had to do with what effect these abuses had on est's public image rather than the abuse itself.
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then don't use facts, then.
My goodness, what do you consider facts? There are plently of articles about Landmark and other LGATs here at RRI, including some written by psychologists and experts in the field. I'm assuming you've read at least some of them. Now it sounds like you're defending Landmark. Are you?Quote
it sounds like a lot of new age talk, up to and including the Landmark site.
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I only know (or remember) one thing supposedly taught in the est sexuality training.
leader making a copulation gesture with his or her fingers and saying, "sex is just bodies, nothing but fucking" or words to that effect.
Yeah...from my friend, who took the sexuality training (as did his wife), he "learned" that sex is just "f-ing," "learned" to disrespect his wife, who previous to the LEC training he had nothing but high praise for, "learned" that basically women are all alike, they all use you, all you're doing is "f-ing," it doesn't mean anything, and in his words, his marriage would keep working "as long as she puts out."
This from a man who truly loved his wife, moved across the world to be with her, loved his kids, respected women. They twisted his entire way of looking at his marriage and his intimate relations with his wife, the mother of his children. Fabulous. :roll: