Re: My landmark friend and his girlfriend
Date: June 16, 2008 08:29PM
I first did the Landmark Forum in August 2006, it was a pretty interesting course. After about a year and a half, more and more concepts that I learned in Landmark became apparent to me. February of this year, 2008, I wanted my girlfriend to take the Forum, and I repeated it with her as a reviewer.
I would have rated our relationship as a 15 out of 10 before, the girl of my dreams, and if you can believe it, our relationship got even better after that. Last weekend we attended the Landmark advanced course, and we both got some invaluable information out of it.
For example, I had to take a hard look at myself and realize that I was thinking my friends were all jerks whenever they showed up late, or did something that I wasn't expecting them to. To use some landmark words, I figured out what my 'act' is. That is 'you're trying to pull one over on me'. [...] The impact of that of course was that I would be frustrated, pissed off, or annoyed at them, when I could have been using those very precious moments to be happy and in the moment. This week I've noticed myself doing that, and learned to snap out of it. I guess in some way I thought they were disrespecting me, because they didn't respect my time, and couldn't make the effort to be there when they said. That was silly in many ways.
My girlfriend really enjoyed the forum, and now the advanced course. She figured out her 'act' as well, which is that 'you don't take me seriously'. In fact, I could have easily told her she had this act, just from knowing how she is around males with authority, and her father. This 'act' has paralyzed her in many ways because she thought men were dominating her, when in reality she is such an awesome human being most people that meet her have a lot of respect for her. This 'act' stopped her from pursuing a singing career, and she has an absolutely amazing voice. Anyway, now that she got the 'act' on her own, without anyone trying to cram this down her throat, I mean getting it at the very core level, she has been singing every day this week. She bought 20 instrumental tracks, and sings along to them. She's super smart and majoring in business school for finance, so I'm not sure that she will decide to be a singer as a profession, but I'm really happy that she's singing because she really comes to life when she sings -- it's like magic. I can just watch her sing all day.
Anyway, the point is that I believe Landmark to be an awesome little exercise and served as a great tool for the both of us.
I was great before landmark, and I'm great after landmark. I just got some new tools to play with in my arsenal. Also, I have not experienced any of these negative things mentioned in this thread from Landmark forum members. I also haven't personally pressured people to join. Surely I've told my friends about Landmark but my parents and closest group of say 10 friends (with the exception of my girlfriend and one of my best friends) have not attended the Landmark courses. That's excellent, I respect their decision, and they're really awesome people and I love them just the same.
Also, I did not write this forum post to insult anyone, start a heated debate, or down play what your beliefs are. I guess the point of this message was to give some piece of mind, and to say that you shouldn't be so scared, and in my very own personal opinion it's not so bad.
If you have any questions or feedback, I subscribed to this thread, and will be happy to respond.
Edited 3 time(s). Last edit at 06/16/2008 09:12PM by rrmoderator.