I think nettie is giving some good advice here. Of course its better to remain friends with someone, if possible.
But also, my view is if a person becomes abusive verbally due to the "Landmarking" and never stopping trying to recruit, then a line has to be drawn.
The other danger is the "rescuer" can get drawn into Landmark very easily. The Landmark person will most likely say..."hey, sure what you say is interesting, come down on Tues night so we can explain what's its all about...".
Then that person could get sucked in.
The 2 main people I knew who got into Landmark, became so toxic they lost most of their friends.
But of course, staying their friend is great, IF they are still a friend that is.
Illusion of Choices:
I find the idea that Landmarkers LOSING their ability to make free choices while being told they are getting more choices, to make perfect sense.
That is what Werner Erhard always has done.
He enjoys creating things that are the opposite to what they appear to be, as an in-joke, I think. He finds it funny.
Like "The Hunger Project". Werner Erhard finds it hilarious that no money went to the hungry, and was instead pissed away on limos and fancy dinners. He loves that kind of thing.
Or "Landmark is employee-owned". That is more comedy by Werner Erhard.
Or that Landmark and EST end up being about how nothing means anything, etc.
One could give countless examples of this.
There was a fake academic paper released a while back, with Werner Erhard as a co-author I believe, about what "Integrity" in business was. It was like comedy, as they reframed the word Integrity to mean the opposite of actual Integrity, with fancy words. That is Werner Erhard in spades.
I can't find the post on this forum about it, but its here. Maybe someone else remembers the title?
If you look at Werner Erhard carefully, he deliberately designs things that make people think one thing, while he is usually doing the opposite, with some in-jokes thrown in. It must make him feel intellectually superior, like a puppet-master. Guys like Werner Erhard actually get-off on the POWER of controlling other people's minds, all the while telling them the opposite. Sicko stuff.
Which is why they end their lives in hiding, living on a boat like a cowardly common crook.
Just stay friends with him and come back telling your story here. It helps other people in the same situation. People that are too scared to write here. Landmark uses scare tactics to silence people. With bogus legal documents that say that you "will never blame landmark" - something like that. Those documents will never stand up in a court of law. They are just part of landmark's intimidation scheme.
As for the phone calls. Landmarkers loose their ability to think for themselves. They need constant coaching. After a while some people cannot make any decisison without checking in with their coach. It is really strange. Landmark says they free people up - that people know how to make choices. But then people become so afraid of making the wrong choice that they freeze up. They get more and more entrapped into the cultish thinking and workings of landmark. Even the forum leaders are constantly coached by other forum leaders.