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vlinden
• Stop trying to "get somewhere," stop "becoming," and experience joy and satisfaction in being yourself now.
That's pretty funny. You're supposed to spend most of your time imagining your "possibilities" and how you can change your life, but then you're supposed to stop trying to "get somewhere" and "become." Landmark people must get purdy confused. And you're supposed to find satisfaction in being yourself, but what the hell are you, after Landmark has wiped away all of your past, all of your "stories" -- all of your self?
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Enviro_Cop
My wife told me that she had not been living from her heart for the seven years we had been married. We weren’t really soul mates because Discovery has taught her to be herself and live her contract, blah blah blah. I was devastated. She assured me if I would just attend Discovery, I would truly “get it” and understand. WHATEVER.
I would never buy in to something as ludicrous as what LGATs offer. My grandmother was an Irish immigrant so I am a little hard headed. I saw a movie yesterday (The Departed) that had a quote supposedly from Sigmund Freud about the Irish being the only people impervious to psychoanalysis. Does anyone know if he said that? And, is that a complement or insult? ha
@ Skeptic, I am equally horrified at how these LGATs can change a person so completely. Reading this forum has really helped me realize it was not me, but my wife that was screwed up.
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vlinden
Hey Skeptic,
This authentic thing is truly weird to me. When my ex got out of the Forum, he said a lot of things to me that made it seem like he was realizing how inauthentic he'd been with me in the past. It's very upsetting to be told this by the person who said he loved you so deeply. And then he said he wanted to be authentic with me now, but it seemed like he was farther away and less himself than ever. I'm clearly not the only one to notice this paradox in someone after they come out of the Forum.
He mentioned our period of courting -- for lack of a better term -- as a time when he was inauthentic. This was so ridiculous to me, because everyone tries to put forward their best face when they first meet someone and are trying to win them. In a way, it's great, because it's like we're trying to be our best selves, the people we wish we were all the time! I feel it's positive to bring out the best in someone. But he came out of the Forum feeling like he had just been "trying to look good" for me, which, to me, denigrated everything that was beautiful about that time.
Is the male peacock just "trying to look good" for the female? Is there anything wrong with his dance? Or is it natural and beautiful?
I hate the Forum. Did I mention that? =)