Be a pillar first and then find your church, club, community.
That's the hard part though, if we could be pillars first, we wouldn't [i:1ca28d5d5e]need[/i:1ca28d5d5e] anyone else. The truth is, we become pillars on the strength and nurture of other people, that's just how we're made, no one stands alone and remains strong.
The greatest betrayal to that [i:1ca28d5d5e]need[/i:1ca28d5d5e] comes in the form of bottom feeding scum like landmark education that exploits and devastates a persons soul from out of that sacred place. That place of need is what keeps us vulnerable enough to give and take in relationships and it may very well be the last thin connection we have left to the innocence that embodied us when we were still very young. Not many people can say they were free to grow and learn in all of childhood, out of an undisturbed or nondevastated innocence, because unfortunately, this world is overrun by monsters who will obliterate that birthright the first chance they get, and how much more devastating it is when, in adulthood, an evil like an LGAT annihilates a person who has already spent so much of life trying to maintain what little trust is left over from the innocence of childhood.
Its as though every person dreams of being a pillar in some way for some cause, but that dream becomes almost mythical after an encounter with a cult.
I believe we were all destined to grow into pillars of some sort or another, but I never figured on LGAT parasites invading and devouring the inner core of a pillar, just to watch it fall.