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="Devil's Advocate"
It is really something how "recovering addict" seems to be blaming Aysha for his own shortcomings. He lists his shortcomings in a manner which implies that since He has all of these shortcomings, Aysha was not a good teacher.
His list:
"She didn’t hold you accountable for what you did to yourself. She never tried to get you to see your part in creating your family’s troubles and reconcile with your parents, she never said you needed to quit using drugs because you were killing yourself and your future, she never said you had to stay in school because it’s harder to get a job or get into college with a GED than with a diploma, she never said you can’t have sex with every girl who’s willing because you are going to feel more and more worthless and miserable with each vulnerable human being you use for your own pleasure. She never helped you to move past your fears and social awkwardness to become a healthy adult. She never made you take responsibility for improving your own life, because she wanted you dependent on her forever. "
Can we all see the slip in reasoning? Simply because "recovering addict" has personal problems, it does not entail that Aysha was the horrible person this forum is making her out to be.
"Recovering Addict" was obviously very young when this happened; as part of love, young people need guidance, not a free rein to do what ever they feel like at the time. That is the role of every parent, real or "adopted". Real loving guidance produces healthy adults, not automatons dependent on their "leader". "Recovering Addict" needed loving guidance in order for him to begin to take responsibility for his situation. It would appear that he has now done that, with the guidance of some bona fide counselling. That took courage, given what he'd been through.
You say, DA, that you knew her for 3 years, meaning you did not know what she got up to in New Zealand; well, only from her side. There are too many people in New Zealand with very different views of Aysha Love from yours; people who are honest, intelligent and very aware of their place in this world. They differ from you in having been "swept up" by Aysha when they were extremely vulnerable. They are the ones who, thankfully, got away.