"No circumstance requires a negative conversation." [this one has been very passive-aggressively written on the fridge in large, red letters]"
Ummmm.... my sentiments exactly as I watched the Wolrd Trade Centers implode before my eyes.... gosh darn, I said to myself, whoever was responsible for this is perfect just the way he is, and no circumstance requires a negative conversation !!!... I felt so much better I want out and ordered a great big pizza with the works ! It was a win for me it was !
Yep! This "negative" crap, misused, misapplied, is one of the roadsigns that finally lead me out of the land of trance.
I was going along with the program when BAM, some real (ugly) life happened. I didn't have a joyous response to the manner in which my father died, along with a few other nasty occurences, and I was about ex-communicated from the cult (thank god!) because I had committed one of the sins: I was "at the effect of my emotions". I wasn't robotic enough.
Which started me thinking about the negative thing. I saw that their magic trick for "negative" thinking was REFRAME, i.e. tell yourself a LIE about how you feel or think.
Step one: quit lying to myself, which led me to more analysis. If I lose a $2 pen that I like, that is something I can reframe. If my father has been poisoned to death by doctors, there is no comparison. It's an assault on my humanity to reframe that I'm hurt, angry, upset.
Once again, their surreal, magic tricks are one-size-fits-all. And what a lie that is!