Nutty - sorry for my late reply.
How did you go with the Exit Counsellor?
In one way I'm hesitating to give you how things happened for us because each case is different but here goes:
* 26 Sept 2003 - Girlfriend enters Landmark Forum
* Early Oct 2003 - She breaks up with me and dates a guy she did the Forum with
* Mid Oct 2003 - My appeal for her to leave LE and the guy. She insists we were never a couple, (an attempt on her part to re-write or re-create history with a new meaning. This new meaning to our relationship persisted through to the end of 2004, early 2005).
* 1 Nov 2003 - She enters LE Advanced Course. Rings me on the 2nd day telling me she has left the guy and promises she will never see him again. (This was part of an Advanced Course exercise - she had a coach by her side while she was phoning me). She however does see the guy occassionally right up to March 2005 though it was innocent. He had moved on but she still "loved" him.
* 8 Nov 2003 - She asks me to help her get out of Landmark
* Mid Nov 2003 - Enrols in LE SELP Course through pressure and against her will.
* 5 Dec 2003 - Commits to leaving LE and asks me to write letter to LE to stop them bagering her
(at this point all she realises is that she did not like the presure of LE but is still completely brainwashed exibiting all standard LE behaviours)
* 23 Feb 2004 - I pass to her a document written by a local Uniting CHurch Minister explaining how the philosophy of Landmark is about "being God", creating all possibilities. This document made her realise that the philosophy of Landmark was counter to her religious beliefs. (I have this doc in MS Word format). Over a course of weeks I passed to her more documents - Singers 6 Conditions and the Lipton Model. By this stage she is anti Landmark but unaware she is brainwashed and still acting in accordance with Landmark behaviour and linguistics.
* Feb 2004 to Sept 2004 - Although during this time she realises Landmark is bad, she resists notions that she is brainwashed.
* Oct 2004 - I passed to her this document, the one you requested:
Pathology as "Personal Growth": A Participant-Observation Study of Lifespring Training
by Janice Haaken and Richard Adams
PSYCHIATRY, Vol 46, August 1983[/color:db07bacdba]
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This document upset her deeply as she recongnised 95% of the Lifespring techniques were used on her in Landmark. She now realises she was brainwashed but is still unable to pinpoint her behaviour and thought processes as being LE induced.
Nov 2004 to Jan 2005 - Still in denial about her behavour and resisting my sugestions to re-learn about reality and to recognise the faulty constructs of LE.
* 26 Jan 2005 - Turning point - seeks help from the Church with me. Denial defence mechanisms are gone
* Feb 2005 to June 2005 - Progressive improvements, LE linguistics diminish, ability to reason increases, moral and former religious beliefs are reconsolidated.
* 5 July 2005 - She falls in love with me again. She is 99% recovered. The occassional LE word shows up. However, she does not feel safe to revisit LE teaching to full debunk residual brainwashing. I figure she is stil traumatised by the Forum and Advanced Course back in Sept - Nov 2003.
WARNING - your road map may well be different.
Oz