Excerpted from Judith Herman's amazing and seminal work,
Trauma and Recovery:
It is very tempting to take the side of the perpetrator. All the perpetrator asks is that the bystander do nothing. He appeals to the universal desire to see, hear, and speak no evil. The victim, on the contrary, asks the bystander to share the burden of the pain. The victim demands action, engagement, and remembering. . . .
In order to escape accountability for his crimes, the perpetrator does everything in his power to promote forgetting. Secrecy and silence are the perpetrator's first line of defense. If secrecy fails, the perpetrator attacks the credibility of his victim. If he cannot silence her absolutely, he tries to make sure that no one listens. To this end, he marshals an impressive array of arguments, from the most blatant denial to the most sophisticated and elegant rationalization. After every atrocity one can expect to hear the same predictable apologies: it never happened; the victim lies; the victim exaggerates; the victim brought it on herself; and in any case it is time to forget the past and move on. The more powerful the perpetrator, the greater is his prerogative to name and define reality, and the more completely his arguments prevail. Now, there is no evidence indicating that Dave McKay is a child molester, a pedophile, or anything of the sort, and I for one do not believe that he is such a person.
There is, however, evidence indicating that Dave McKay is a friend to, and sympathizes with, pedophiles and others who groom children for the purposes of their own perverse sexual gratification. Only difference is, Dave McKay has a predilection for grooming and recruiting of youth for the purposes of his own
emotional gratification.
The way in which he minimizes the depravities (sexual and otherwise) of Moses David Berg is the most telling indicator of this attitude on his part.
I am not saying that I think that Dave McKay is a sex offender (because there is no evidence of that, and in fact I personally do not believe that he is) but I
am saying that it seems as if there are a lot of the same thought processes at work in his mind, that are also at work in the minds of sexual offenders.
His sense of entitlement, his tendency to assert that his victims somehow deserved or wanted to be treated as they were (or are), and his tendency to constantly attempt to define reality for others, it's all there. Different behaviors, but the same thought processes at work behind them.
He will promote secrecy with respect to what has happened within the JCs in the past in general, and in terms of sexual abuse of children specifically.
He will vociferously attack the credibility the victims of his own malignant self-love through all manner of ad hominem attacks, and as a well the victims of the past (and perhaps present-day) sexual offenders who are a part of his group (assuming that they still are a group).
He plays various sides and factions surrounding the JC debate against one another; the effect of this is that nobody is willing to listen to anybody else anymore, so much distrust gets sown.
He will deny, he will lie, he will rationalize, he will minimize; in sum, he is trying to manipulate and/or intimidate everybody involved in this thing to participate in his conspiracy of silence, and (in the context of this thread) specifically with respect to incidences of child sexual abuse that has taken place withing the group that he is ostensibly the Apostle of.
With respect to certain ex-members who know the identitiy of X: I can understand their reluctance, but unfortunately their not speaking out is what allows McKay to keep getting away with everything. This is the simple bottom line.
Frankly, from where I sit I see this as enabling DM to do what he does, and I have a hard time respecting anybody's silence with respect to not reporting known instances of sexual abuse, whether they were perpetrated in or out of the group proper. It's hard for me to respect their silence, but I have to.
But because McKay knows all the ex-members' details, he can use information if they speak out against him.
Funny though, that he now says he doesn't know John's identity.
As soon as James started posting against him, he knew James' surname right away! And I'll bet if John started posting, Dave would quickly remember his surname too!
FOR MORE INFORMATION ON THE "JESUS CHRISTIANS" AND DAVE MCKAY PLEASE ALSO SEE:
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Edited 5 time(s). Last edit at 01/28/2011 03:22AM by zeuszor.