Miracle of Love
Posted by:
myowndrummer
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Date: January 02, 2005 03:35AM
As comoderator of another online group, this was sent with a request to post it publicly. A holiday letter to all.
In that vein - wishing all a wonderful 2005 with increased awareness, self realization and health.
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Dear family and friends,
Boy what a year and I glad it is almost over, I am ready to roll right into 2005!
The year started out great. I had been struggling with relationships with men, hadn't been involved in one in a long time when I met this incredible guy New Years Eve. He had a love for God and integrity like no other. He is just a great guy.
We spent endless hours talking about future travel plans, God, and our growing relationship. One problem existed,after listen to endless hours of spiritual guidance tapes, and as I got to understand his belief system I could see that he was probably involved in a cult. I started experiencing anxiety attacks every time I would listen to any of the teaching tapes. But oh my..... it was just me I needed to relax. Let the energy flow, after all, what a great guy.
At first I thought oh what's the big deal. Look how nice and kind he is. He doesn't yell, have an ego that is out of completely out of control, and he shows up on time. Doesn't do drugs, has a respectable family. Works out. Dresses nice. And is very tidy. You should see his house. He is someone the "Oprah Winfrey" show would endorse with enthusiasm. Wow..and...... he has an education and presence. Finally! How lucky could I get? And he liked me too!
We were spending most of our time together and the months went on. We took a lovely trip to the Bahamas. Funny thing, we were always looking for some connection to the internet. In the middle of all the romance and touring, he would have to connect with his spiritual guides his mentors. Like he couldn't go a day without being given some "accurate" advice to break free. Oh well, he was with me!
Oh to be finally settled into something long term....How good could it get? And he was so very nice. So we were engaged.
In September he attended a seminar, and during this seminar he was not to have contact with the outside world. Thisconcept left me very sad and I felt that part of him was dead. So on that one very warm summer day as I was sitting at my kitchen table looking at my engagement ring, I stumbled over to the computer. UMMMM...I thought.... let me investigate this meditation thing.
I mean I had done it before but nothing really came up about his group.
Well lo and behold.
There is was all the information my eyes could feast upon. How fortunate for me!
After doing the research and after arranging my work world to fit his I finally start to figure it out. I then contacted a leading cult exit counselors located in Boston. He spent 30 minutes with me on the phone and told me what to expect, what to be aware of. That he would be in full “cult personality" after being with his group for 6 days straight. Oh I could see it very clearly. I even had the priveledge of meeting some of
the other members. I was really afraid a first, but the love was so great and the care so lovely....they were trying to recruit me. Wow, was I wanted!
By October I was convinced that it was an abusive organization. Slowly slipping away into mind control and thought reform programs that were slowly being used on me, but I had my on line support group to help give
me clarity. One of the women in the survivors and support group and I began chatting on the message board and off. She lives in another part of the country, flew into my city one week-end and are you ready for
this..... we did the unspeakable. We met. Talked for hours in fear about our knowledge and findings. And the mindf++k.
We had each other and after meeting in person realized that we both looked similar....and we both looked like the cult leader! I was flattered. Wow... to resemble a woman with so much power, men have be quoted to say they would "cut their balls off for her." And my boyfriend wanted to be with me! He picked me!
Most of my time now is spent at work like most of us, my social life however is spent hiding in the house with my online support group family.
How am I suppose to do this? I don't get out much...what would I say to people....so what happened between you and your boyfriend, you were both so perfect together, what a great guy.
Oh yeah....his group does not teach attachment. One small reason why our engagement was called off.
Well enough about me and breaking free.
So that was my year, looking forward to 2005!
Hope all is well with all of you.