if byron katie said she "healed" someone, she was simply wrong. however, i'm a little lost on this cult part. no one trashing her work seems to address the four questions and turnarounds, which is the useful part of her stuff. if you don't like the suggestions of healing or the stuff about roaches or whatever, then toss it aside, i agree it's fairly meaningless. [...] the four questions and turnarounds have useful validity. use the part that works and disregard the bull. [...]
Let's let an Amazon reviewer of "Loving What Is"
weigh in on Ms. Katie's approach. This is someone who apparently took the work quite seriously, really threw themselves into it - i.e. they read all BK's books and even experienced her in person..."This book is dangerous"
I wish I had never read this book. I was bought into the idea of her "enlightenment" and being a perfectionist really tried to make it work for me. I suffer from anxiety disorder and tried to use "the work" on it and it has made it so much worse.
There are some scary premises in here: that people "are being thought and breathed" and that we can't drop a thought or belief except through her inquiry. These ideas take away personal choice and sometimes inquiry doesn't work. Beliefs and thoughts can be changed through life experiences and also through other methods like cognitive behavioral therapy (which I more recommend)
I've read all of her books and it astounds me has she has no emotion
over her mother's death or the fact that she herself was going blind. She accepted her blindness so much that she didn't even take action to try to correct it. It was her husband that found her the help. I want to feel emotions so that they can guide me and lead me to take action. I want to grieve when people I love die. I don't want to "turn it around". I want to believe in god and that he is directing my life in a very personal way, not that I am being "breathed and thought" in a collective human consciousness way.I have also seen her in person and have seen how some did not get it when she worked with them or how they misinterpreted it and had more pain.
Inquiry worked for me when I was having trouble potty training my daughter and it might be helpful when dealing with confusion over others behavior, but overall it can be dangerous, and I think there are better methods out there to get to acceptance and peace.Personally, this book has caused me so much more pain, that I wish I had never read it and now need to recover from it. I hope this review helps someone else avoid the unneccesary pain I've experienced through the work.
I have learned from this, that self help needs to be taken with a grain of salt and I need to evaluate the author and their training
, and also not accept what others say so blindly, even if they claim to be "enlightened"
. I need to check it out with my own truth and god.
Edited 2 time(s). Last edit at 07/09/2008 05:19AM by helpme2times.