A note on the entire New Age scene
A quick way to tell if you are in a toxic part of this social milieu, even before you have met a guru or group is see if you get frowns or are scolded if you use the valid term
'victim'.
Its in the dictionary. Journalists, newspapers, emergency room personnel, fire fighters, police officers, and health care professionals use it all the time.
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Victim | Define Victim at Dictionary.coma person who suffers from a destructive or injurious action or agency: a victim of
an automobile accident. 2. a person who is deceived or cheated, as by his or her ...
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You have been victimized when you've been injured.
Injured by something or by someone.
Remove the word 'victim' from the mental vocabulary, and people who have had bad stuff done TO them are without the word they need to get an accurate understanding that someone else is victimizing them.
Without the word 'victim' one cannot construct a map by which to understand and orient oneself to a set up where one has been DONE TO.
WIthout the term victim, the very persons who have been DONE TO, are without a mental map needed to name their hurt and name their assailant.
Thats the hazard of all these "You make your own reality/thus there are no victim' set ups.
They do give expansive feelings of self empowerment.
But these set ups take away the genuine power of having a full vocabulary by which one can map what is being done to you.
To put a ban on the word victim is an early step in manipulating and loading the language.
Even if one is not in a bad group with a leader, social settings that forbid use of the word victim are setting denizens up to be without the language resources they will need in case they incur harm and have to create a map to understand their situation and get out.
A very clever rhetorical move is for some to suggest that it "insults adult autonomy" to dare refer to someone as a victim and therefore not to use the word.
Victim applies precisely to persons who have been
harmed enough as to lose some or all of their adult autonomy--whether left with a limp after an accident, or unconscious from smoke caused by a fire, or loss of friends and family by adhering to a set of teachings that take an adversarial stance toward skeptics, etc.
Its a similar rehtorical gambit trick when people try to forbid use of the term "cult".
Without this sociological and psychologically valid term, in use for decades and applied using strict guidelines, without the term cult, we lack a map and a set of diagnostic procedures by which some situations cannot be fully understood.
So when someone doesnt want you to use the word 'victim' they're trying to rob you of a mental skill that you already possess.
They may not even be aware of what they are doing.
Dont let your vocabulary be taken from you.
Use your vocabulary skillfully, be a life long student.
But watch out for people who want to take certain words away from you or try to turn the words into jokes or terms of ridicule, at expense of those harmed.