I'm Stuck
Date: October 01, 2010 12:45AM
I've been going to this church for 2 years now. Things have gone incredibly sour. My wife practically worships the church leaders (which is practiced and encouraged). Our Pastor has married a Bishop from three or four counties away, an expects us to travel almost an hour to go to bible Study, mid-week worship service, and Sunday. I've tried to explain how traveling back and fourth like that would be draining, along with paying tithes, (now) church dues, a building fund, and whatever fund raiser they can think of. Financially now we are feeling it, yet she continues to want to go.
On top of that Bishop has called my wife outside of church, after I had gone to work, to ask whats going on with us, and what do we need praying for.
I confronted her about that, and she defends the whole thing claiming she's just trying to foster a relationship with her spiritual father.
Now me and this guy have had issues before.
He insulted my mother at my aunts funeral.
Talked trash to me twice, until I confronted him about it.
Now he walks through church and acts like i don't exists, but NEVER hesitates to call on my wife.
I talked with her about it, including trying to come from a scriptural point of view. I've tried talking, I've tried being supportive.
I just recently found out she was sending text to this man.
I asked her without trying to get emotional at all, about the nature of their relationship.
She maintained that it was a Father/Daughter relationship.
She accuses me of always having issues with him, and I need to get together with him, and squash the issue.
I informed her of the nature of my question, and that I don't trust any man that has no, nor shows respect for me, calling my wife at night (even if its to discuss the weather).
I'm tired of talking. I'm trying to be Christian, but I'm also fighting the urge to beat the living crap out of this man.
I want to leave. Yet I love my wife. If I leave or I fight this man he's going to take advantage of the situation. If he already hasn't. I've gone from wanting a spiritual meaningful life to all out rage. I've tried looking beyond that, but I can't. An I'm trying not to catch a case. I'm stuck.